Never Have I Ever: Explored Breeding/Impregnation Roleplay
Why Are People Saying “Breed Me” in Bed? We Spoke to a Woman Who Loves This Kink
Why Are People Saying “Breed Me” in Bed? We Spoke to a Woman Who Loves This Kink
Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).
Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.
When it comes to relationships and sex, it’s widely understood that taboo things are hot.
It’s why we like putting things up our butts (well, that and all those nerve endings), it’s why some people engage in age play, and, while this may seem contrary at first read, it’s why some people get off on the risk of pregnancy — otherwise known as impregnation or breeding kink.
While any gender or orientation can have an impregnation kink, and indeed, most people don’t have sex to conceive; there is the undeniable biological aspect that, at least for cis men and women, without birth control, sex can lead to babies.
And plenty of parents will joyously (and perhaps unnecessarily) tell you about how special it is to have sex with the direct purpose of getting pregnant.
However, many of those who have an impregnation kink don’t actually want kids, and that risk — that danger, that taboo — is precisely what makes it so hot.
“I’d venture to say that breeding kink is much more common than people think,” says sexpert Laura Rose Halliday. “And for many people with the kink, it’s not that they want to get pregnant or impregnate someone; it’s more so the risk of potentially doing so. The feeling of doing something ‘dangerous’ but throwing caution to the wind to achieve pleasure, that’s the kink.”
So, to learn more about breeding fantasies, we spoke with Marla, a 25-year-old bisexual cis woman, about her impregnation kink, her hot reasonings for integrating sex work into her fantasy, and how she and her current partner first explored impregnation play — and why she has to keep politics out of the fantasy.
AskMen: What turns you on about the idea of getting pregnant?
Marla: I might have children one day, but that’s a separate conversation. Maybe there is some aching womb primal part of me that gets off on this; it would make sense biologically, wouldn’t it? But I’m really not thinking about marriage and babies when I think of impregnation (or breeding) kink. That falls into the long-term-plan-responsible-dating category; this is the getting off category.
It’s the opposite; I think of situations that are so far from any family-oriented plan to have a family. It’s the danger and risk that creampies pose, combined with just thinking creampies are hot, like most other people. I think I just further intellectualize the kink.
Tell me more. How did you manifest this kink?
At first, it was just watching creampie porn. The more cocks, the better. They say what scares you can turn you on, because it’s taboo. Like not knowing which creampie got you pregnant? So hot.
In real life, probably not so much; I get tested regularly, take hormonal birth control, and always use condoms with new partners until we both know we’re clean.
I’ve never even had a threesome, let alone a gangbang. When I masturbate to it, I create scenarios in my head that I’d probably never do in real life. Like, I’m an escort, or a porn star who has (consensually) agreed to this condom-free fuck fest; my sex worker friends say it’s called Porn Star Experience on some sites when you do it without condoms, and who knows?
In the fantasy, I could get an STD, I could get pregnant, I could get hurt, but it’s the idea of lots of men just using me and filling me up…and I must submit regardless of the danger.
Maybe that’s why I added the sex work element in my head, because it gives the kink even more taboo. And the thought of being filled up with multiple men’s cum. It’s turning me on right now, actually, just thinking about it.
What does your current partner think of it?
I’m in a decently new relationship where we just stopped using condoms. This kink came up, kind of hilariously, in the same conversation as talking about having kids or not. We were getting honest after sex, talking about exclusivity, long-term compatibility, and kind of hilariously, after talking about having kids, since we were already naked, I shared how the idea is a fantasy of mine, and we ended up having sex again but this time with breeding dirty talk.
It turns him on, but I don’t think it’s the type of porn he picks, you know. He’s just happy about getting to fuck me raw and cum in me; the impregnation dirty talk is like sprinkles on his ice cream that I need, and he just enjoys.
Do you want kids? You said maybe one day?
Maybe. I don’t know. Not now. I’m open to it, but if I have kids, it will be late in the game. I just wanted to be responsible and ask to make sure he’s not completely against them, because that might be a dealbreaker relationship-wise; I want the option, ideally with a supportive partner. But maybe in 10 years?
So, if this kink is rooted in taboo, but you don’t want to get pregnant now, has it gotten sexier and riskier ever since Roe was overturned?
Oh, goodness, no. I can’t think about that. If I start thinking about that, all the arousal will go away. I have to put myself in a total fantasy world to get off on this, and politics aren’t a part of it.
Have you ever used alien eggs? Like those dildos that “implant” and “impregnate” you with alien eggs? If alien or monster dildos are your thing…
I haven’t, but I’ve watched that in porn before.
So far you mainly enjoy this kink through porn, dirty talk, and roleplay with one partner who you know it’s safe to have sex without condoms with. Would you see yourself taking it to the next level?
In my dream world, one day, I would try a gangbang, or at least an MMF threesome. I don’t know if my anxiety disorder would let me do that in a situation where there are no condoms, even if I’m on birth control because I get really scared about STDs. I would have to be like a porn star, knowing that everyone just got tested, but I don’t know if I could trust a regular guy to do that.
So realistically I see myself one day having an MMF or a gangbang, but there probably would be condoms and I’d have to imagine the rest, which is fine.
What advice would you give anyone interested in trying it?
I think most people interested in it are probably already trying it…at least, I mean, fantasizing about it and probably jerking off to it or thinking about it during regular sex, even if their partner doesn’t know.
So I guess my advice, if that speaks to you, would be to tell your partner about it because they will probably be intrigued, and then you can level it up through dirty talk. Plus, it’s just nice to have a partner who you can talk about this stuff with.
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Source: AskMen
