Best Sex Positions for Better Sex
The Ultimate Illustrated Guide to Sex Positions That’ll Change Your Life
The Ultimate Illustrated Guide to Sex Positions That’ll Change Your Life
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Just about every person in the world likes sex. Hell, if most of us could just skip work and spend all of our time in bed, we would.
With a 24/7 sex schedule, variety becomes paramount. Fortunately, there are plenty of different configurations you and your partner can try out in the bedroom. To make them easier to imitate and to jumpstart your imagination, we’ve crafted illustrations of each sex position on this list. Not to mention, we’ve detailed exactly what you can expect from performing each. Whether you’re into slow and steady, fast and furious, or great ways to play orally, you’ll find something here to try tonight (and every night going forward).
1 Missionary Sex Positions
2 Doggy Style Sex Positions
3 Woman On Top Sex Positions
4 Oral Sex Positions
5 Standing Sex Positions
6 Sitting & Kneeling Sex Positions
7 Unusual Sex Positions
1. Missionary Sex Positions
Traditionally considered the “default sex position,” missionary offers advantages to first-timers, as well as people looking for sex that’s more on the vanilla side. However, there are some slight variations that can amp things up in terms of the pleasure, intensity, and the kink factor for both partners. Check out these missionary-inspired positions:
The missionary position (man on top, couple facing each other) is the most famous of all positions. The eye contact, the mild male dominance, and the angle of penetration make this a popular one, and odds are, the first time you had sex was in this position. As a very comfortable position that allows for easy thrusting, and an easy pull-out if you’re a man, there’s plenty of benefits to it. It’ll work its way into basically any sexual encounter you find yourself in at some point.
2. Coital Alignment Technique
Another spin on missionary, the coital alignment technique (C.A.T.), aka the frog or the perfect position, looks to sacrifice elevation and power for proper positioning. Start in regular missionary, with your torso flattened as much possible, leaving your partner to arch her legs and put them on your butt. What you’re doing here is targeting the clitoris for more direct rubbing and friction. The pressure you put on her clitoris could help her orgasm quicker. You should also be staying nice and deep within her in this position, too, to ensure maximum pleasure.
3. Legs on Shoulders
A classic take on missionary, this one can either be done with you lying down on top of her, or with her at the edge of the bed with you standing (or more accurately leaning in) as her legs on your shoulders. This position gives the man all of the control of penetration, but it also allows for deeper penetration, so it’s a win-win for all parties involved. You may need to grasp her legs and pull in gently to prevent your thrusting from pushing her away from you.
4. The Pancake
A more extreme variant of the previous position, this one really puts you in the driver’s seat. Start with your torso more or less vertical, placing her legs on your shoulders. Descend slowly until you’re basically folding her in half. For more leverage, you can reach around her back and pull her tightly against you. This one is very intimate, but leaves you in charge of the thrusting due to her limited mobility. The pressure you’re putting on her muscles can also create a tightness in her pelvis, leading to an increased tighter feel for you. You should make sure she’s flexible enough to pull this one off — many women aren’t — and keep in mind you’ll probably be able to pull this off for just a few minutes.
5. Swivel and Grind
If you’re working with a little bit less than the average man, the swivel and grind is your friend. Instead of basic pumping, which is actually better for you than it is for her. Instead, once you’re inside her, use your hip rotation to grind and twist inside of her, pressing your shaft as hard as you can against her clitoris. The friction and pressure will be what brings her to orgasm, no matter your size. To get as close as possible, missionary with legs on shoulders works best. You may also want to consider propping up her hips on a pillow or wedge to create the perfect angle.
6. The Viennese Oyster
Sex expert Tyomi Morgan notes that the viennese Oyster “requires she place both of her ankles behind her head, fully exposing her vulva and folding her body into the shape of an oyster. He holds her ankles in place while she uses her free hands to prevent his body weight from crushing her contorted body.” Morgan also believes this position “is great for extra-deep penetration.”
7. Spread Eagle
This position isn’t for beginners as it requires a little light bondage. If you’re decide to explore kinkier options with your partner, this is a great option that allows you to take a more dominant role while still feeling intimate. With your partner on her back, have her spread her legs and tie her ankles and her wrists together. You then have total control for a very steamy, powerful romp.
2. Doggy Style Sex Positions
Dogs have figured out a pretty good way for humans to get it on. Doggy style, along with other positions where you’re doing your partner from behind, offer you a lot of control. While they’re typically less intimate than missionary or its variations, sometimes that’s exactly what you (or your partner) are looking for. Doggy variations allow for all kinds of positioning possibilities, as each person can be standing, kneeling, or lying down. It can be also be good for role play where staring into each other’s faces might ruin the illusion.
1. Doggy Style
Doggy style is a favored sex position for a few reasons. It’s the classic female submissive position that allows for the man be in control, and there’s more than a few variations on it. In its simplest form, you kneel on the bed with your partner on all fours. As you enter her from behind, hold onto her hips and/or torso. If you want to add some roughness, this position is solid for pulling on hair, or spanking as well, to add to the general submissiveness of the position. If you have a free hand, a clitoral reach-around or playing with her breasts can add extra stimulation to the position.
2. Reach for the Sky
Doggy style is normally done kneeling, but it doesn’t have to be. An easy transition to this version involves you standing and leaning way over her. You’ll get somewhat of a less intense thrust than regular doggy style, but in return, you’ll have a different sensation, particularly for her, and a pretty decent workout for your hamstring and ankles. Leaning forward actually lets you get a somewhat deeper feel, and the difficulty quotient will make you feel all the more accomplished for pulling it off.
3. Bedside Doggy Style
Although a lot of sexual positions have the woman on an elevated platform with the man on the ground, this one flips the script. Go the edge of the bed and kneel. Have her stand straight up, back up to you slowly, and then bend over at 90 degrees. Thenm enter her from behind and thrust away. This one has a little bit less of the hands-on potential of traditional doggy style, but it’s an interest take on the position that’s arguably even more male-dominant. If you want to make things easier on her back, you can place a chair or desk to place her arms on for support.
4. Backdoor Planking
Sex expert Tyomi Morgan says “this position not only accesses the G-spot and the A-spot to create squirting orgasms, but it’s also comfortable for the female partner after switching into several positions. Backdoor planking is a position where the female partner lies on her stomach with her legs positioned close together, and is penetrated from behind.”
Morgan also notes that “this position requires little work on her behalf, but feels amazing because her legs are placed closely together which creates a tighter entry for him and increased sensation for her.”
5. Doggy Style Stairs
Doggy style sex on the stairs takes advantage of the natural incline to create new angles and supports for a classic position. Again, carpeted steps or a towel to protect her knees are a good idea. Depending on your height, you can either be standing or kneeling for this one. The stairs mean she can keep herself more upright, and the fact that you’ll be on a lower step means you have a more natural, upright angle to enter her vagina than traditional doggy style on a flat surface. Just try not to fall!
Spooning is one of the “cuddliest” of all the positions, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it intense. You lie on your side, with your partner in front of you, facing away. If you enter her from behind, both of you can control the pace and depth of thrusting. The position is comfortable for longer sexual sessions with a lot of sensual touching and kissing of the back of the neck. You can also get quite handsy and reach around the play with her nipples, or even reach down and add extra stimulation to her clitoris from the front. You can also make it anal.
7. Kneel Together
Enter her from behind as you would normally with doggy style, only both of you straighten your torsos straight up. This position means her hands are a load free-er than they’d normally be during doggy style, which means she can easily play with her clitoris or even reach down and grab your balls.
8. Hyper-Connected Doggy
Scott Brown, sex expert and founder of Sexpressed.com, says this position “is a variant of the doggy style position we are all familiar with. The man stands on the floor at the edge of the bed, and the woman gets into typical doggy style position on the bed. After the man has entered her, he pulls the woman up towards him so that she is now kneeling at the edge of the bed instead of being an all fours. He supports her with one hand wrapped around her torso.”
Brown adds that “this position is so great because it allows you to get that deep penetration so many love about doggy style but you are more connected with your partner because her whole body is up against you. Added benefits are that you can pull her hair, see her face, and also whisper nasty things into her ear, all at the same time, since you have one free arm.”
9. Chicken Wing Doggy Style
This is a pretty straightforward doggy variation that starts in the typical position with you lifting her up by her thighs.
Adult film actor and director Derrick Pierce notes that you should “make sure your arm/hand is underneath her leg for support.”
“For additional support, bring your leg up and plant on your foot (with the same leg of hers that you are holding) and rest her leg on top of your knee,” he added.
10. The Superhero
Perhaps the ultimate sex strength test position, in this position, you bend her over a desk or table, with her using it for support. Once you’re inside her, lift her pelvis up slowly until her feet are actually off the ground, and you’re holding on to her as you thrust in and out. The sheer physical intensity of this one means it’s not for the faint-hearted, but can provide an adrenaline rush as you go closer and closer to your breaking point. Keep safety in mind and let her down gently as soon as your strength starts to wane, and make sure you don’t pull out too much.
11. The Lean Doggy
Dating writer Jeremy Glass believes the look of this position “depends on your partner and the thing she’s leaning over.”
“If you have a really understanding woman-friend who doesn’t mind being boned from behind while she rests her elbows on a wooden desk, all is well,” he said. “Leaning your partner over, say, a table and taking her from behind requires work from her end (no pun intended) but allows the dude to go about sexy times while literally just standing there. How it feels depends on the surface. If you’re leaning your partner over a bathroom sink, it probably won’t be the best for her. However, if you’re leaning her over the bed and there happens to be a plate of pancakes and waffles on said bed… everyone’s happy.”
12. Bent-Over Standing Doggy
This standing twist on doggy style takes some serious flexibility and commitment, but if you’re up for it (or down for it) it can be a fun addition to your roster of positions. This is also a great choice if you’re trying to get it on in public without being caught since she can completely dip down behind a bush or parked car for cover.
13. Out-of-Control Cowgirl
Dr. Jess O’Reilly, host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast, described this position as the man kneels and sits back on his heels while the woman sits atop him, facing away, to maintain total control since he can’t thrust with as much power while on his knees.
14. The Cowboy
Before we get to positions with the woman on top (aka different variations of the cowgirl), let’s check out the cowboy. Finally, your chance to ride. This is a variant on the backdoor planking position that sees you putting your thighs outside of your partner’s thighs instead of inside them. Your partner should push her butt up in the air a little bit to help give you a better angle — a pillow can help here.
3. Woman on Top Sex Positions
While missionary- and doggy-inspired positions typically mean the man is in control of the action, positions that feature the woman on top allow your partner a lot more control over the speed, intensity, and angle of penetration. They do offer the possibility of both of you facing each other, or away from each other, and either partner can take control of the thrusting, making these positions a versatile option that offers pleasure for all comers.
Probably one of the first you learned, there’s more than a few reasons why the cowgirl is arguably the world’s favored sex position. You get to lie back and get a wonderful view of your partner moving up and down; she gets excellent clitoral stimulation and a lot of control of depth and penetration. Penetration-wise, this is arguably the quickest way for a woman to get an orgasm, although quite a bit more difficult for you in that position. Use your free hands to massage her breasts, and if you want to add an element of dominance despite your position on the bottom, you can place your fingers gently around her neck.
2. Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl puts the man on the bottom and has the woman straddling him facing away. She can control the angle of penetration here, and the man gets a great view of her from behind. If you want to change things up, arch your knees up to give her something to easily push off of. If you want to make eye contact and get a view of her from the front, a mirror could also be your friend here, although maybe you just prefer this position .
3. Crouching Reverse Cowgirl
The reverse cowgirl is usually done in a vertical T-position with the man lying flat on his back and the woman bouncing up and down mostly upright. You can add a variation to this by having her lean forward, allowing her head to be over the top of your feet. By planting her arms onto the ground/bed or even grabbing your shins, she can really get a lot of leverage to move herself back and forth. This one really leaves her in control and lets you sit back and chill out, which all things considered.
4. Woman Lying on Top
This position requires a lot of exertion on the woman’s part but could be very intense. It can also give her a lot of control if done as an anal sex position. You lie flat on your back hold her by the hips or butt while she partly props herself up using her elbows and legs, arching her back and placing her shoulders and shoulder blades on your chest. Then, she lowers herself up and down, to control how deeply you move in and out of her. To prevent her from getting tired, help her by supporting her butt and taking some of the weight.
5. The Backseat Special
The backseat is a favorite sex spot because of its convenience when you’re you’re young and still living at home. If you and your lover are driving down the highway and you’re understandably horny, you can’t exactly bang on the interstate. The backseat is a cramped, semi-public locale for sex, which can add to the thrill of it. For this, you’re probably better off sticking to the standard cowgirl position, although missionary might also be an option.
6. The Waterfall
The waterfall is one of the strangest-looking positions out there, but once you try it, you’ll understand why it’s worth it.
Sex expert Dr. Emily Morse believes “the waterfall is a variation on the popular cowgirl position, but packs a super-sized climactic punch.”
“Start by laying on the couch or bed with your head near the edge and your partner on top of you, but instead of riding you from her knees, she’ll need to lean back and shift her weight to her feet,” adds Morse. “Once she’s got the stance down, inch toward the edge of the bed or couch, letting your head and shoulders slide off onto the ground while your hips remain elevated. If you’re on a couch, drape your legs over the back of the seat or simply let your knees fall open. From here, your partner has complete control over the speed, depth and intensity of her gyrations, not to mention a free hand to use as she wishes — clitoral stimulation, anyone? This position will cause the blood to rush to your head (and your other head) for an explosive climax. Then you’ll understand why it’s called the waterfall.”
7. Zen Sex
Some people want lustful, intense, passionate sex, and some prefer sex to be more relaxed. If you’re in the mood for something a little more zen, try this position. In order to pull it off, your partner should put her legs into a full lotus position and lean forward on her hands. She also has the option to move her hips up and down. Alternately, you can help by lifting her hips from behind to achieve an up and down motion.
4. Oral Sex Positions
Not all sex has to be exclusively genitals-on-genitals. Oral sex is always a great pleasure option, whether you’re giving or receiving (or both at once). Not to mention, many women report enjoying oral sex more than penetrative sex. So what are your options when it comes to blowjobs, cunnilingus, and 69ing? Let’s check it out.
1. Lying for Him
This is probably the least work you’ll ever have to do to achieve orgasm as you just lie back and let your partner do the work. This allows her to control everything that’s going on, meaning she has full control over the speed, the angle, the duration and more, making this a great option for both of you.
2. Lying for Her
This position is the gender-swapped version of the above, allowing her to relax and you to really get to work. It’s also perfect for amping things up a bit by adding some fingering to the mix to really take her pleasure to the next level.
3. Standing for Him
This has been a staple of porn scripts for a long, long time. While it might be a little less relaxing position to receive a blowjob, it’s a great option if there isn’t a bed available and/or if you want to feel more dominant or engage in role play while receiving oral pleasure. It also means you can experiment (only with your partner’s express consent!) with thrusting a little rather than just being passive.
4. Standing for Her
This is a bit trickier than the male equivalent, but it’s a solid option if there isn’t a bed available. Just kneel at her feet, have her spread her legs a bit, and go for it.
5. Face-Sitting for Him
Face-sitting can be very hot because it adds an extra element of dominance and submissiveness to your oral play. Have your partner lie on her back, propping her head up using a pillow or by leaning her shoulders against the wall. Then, thrust into her mouth. It’s a good idea to go gently here because you could make this uncomfortable otherwise. Talk to her beforehand to establish some boundaries such as a signal for when to stop. During the act, work with her body language and cues to figure out your rhythm, as well as how deep you can go.
6. Face-Sitting for Her
For female on male, this position works even better. You lie flat on your back while she straddles your face with her thighs, lowering her crotch onto your head. You can also use a pillow to take some of the pressure off your neck. Women love this position, but a lot of guys do too. Not only is it a pretty comfortable way to eat her out, it also allows for a bit of female dominance to the position. You also get the full experience: the taste, the heat, and moisture of her vagina. She can add a bit more pressure if you want to kick it up a notch, in which case you’ll want to work out a signal in case you find yourself suffocating.
7. The 69
The classic mutual pleasure oral position, 69-ing works for any combination of two sex partners. If you’re lying one on top of the other, typically woman on top is easier, with each of you pleasuring the other orally. An intense position, the 69 also tests your concentration and ability to pleasure your partner while she’s doing the same for you. Play with various configurations until you’re most comfortable.
8. Sideways 69ing
Another fun option for the 69 is to simply turn it on its side. While sideways 69ing requires a bit more effort than the upright version, it’s a great option if lying on top of each other is tricky for whatever reason, and offers a fun new spin — literally — on a classic oral position.
9. The Upside-Down 69
Not satisfied with simply turning the 69 sideways? Amp it up with the upside-down version. This variation, which is not for beginners, also requires some specific hardware as you’ll need a chin-up bar for the top person to hang from. Don’t try this without first ascertaining that it can hold your weight (or your partner’s). You can also alternate which one of you is upside down if you’re really enjoying yourselves.
10. Sideways Oral
Recline on your side, with your partner positioned so that her head is in line with your crotch. She should also be on her side, so that she can wrap her arm around your legs for balance and leverage. From there, you can totally sit back and let her do all the work, or provide the thrusting motion yourself. This is an incredibly comfortable and relaxed position for both of you. Your partner may need to tuck her legs in to prevent her legs from overhanging the bed (if that’s where you’re at) or even place a chair next to the bed if you’re a taller couple so that her legs aren’t overhanging into nothingness.
11. Elevated Cunnilingus
Having your partner up above means that you can go down on her – without literally going down too much. Have her bring her legs right up to the edge of whatever platform she’s on, opting to kneel or stand (depending on her and your height) to give it your all. This is another one that is great for getting it on in public because you don’t need a nice cushy surface to lie down on.
12. The Dragon
A reversal of the woman-on-top face-sitting position, this one is great for guys who love cunnilingus but who still want to be a bit more dominant. Typically, this one starts with the woman lying on her back, her partner can then pick her lower body up and support it while her head and shoulders remain in place. This position is also great for analingus, as it gives the giver full access to the woman’s crotch and anus.
13. The Seated Blowjob
Is there anything better than getting a blowjob while seated? Perhaps the most famous version of this blowjob position is getting one in a car, known as “road head.” That’s a sideways angle, but of course, you can always do this in the privacy of your home instead of in a motor vehicle. In that case, your partner would probably approach from the front while you’re seated.
13. Doggy Style Oral
Unlike other oral positions, this doggy style one is pretty much just for performing on women. Have her get down on all fours, either propping herself up on her knees and hands or knees and elbows. Then, either get down on all fours and pleasure her orally from behind, or have her on all fours next to the edge of the bed so that you can either stand or kneel on the ground to make it easier on your back. This position is also great for giving her analingus, if you desire.
5. Standing Sex Positions
Whether you have a bed at your disposal or not, sometimes, you just want to get it on standing up instead of lying down. Standing sex is a great option if you’re in the mood for something that burns a few more calories, and if your heights line up just right, it could be a lot more opportunities for movement. It’s also the most common go-to for public sex because it typically doesn’t require anything except two open zippers.
1. Standing Sex
Bro, do you even lift … your partner up to have sex with her? Grab her thighs and then have her wrap her legs around you while hanging off your shoulders with her arms. Make sure you’re strong enough to pull this one off before penetrating her. You’ll probably have to lift her up higher and then slower her very slowly onto your penis. We’d add a pretty big note of caution here: Make sure you have a very firm grip and take this slowly and safely, as there is the potential for injury here if you drop your partner — for both of you.
2. Against a Wall
This is a staple of movie sex scenes when two characters passionately embrace for the first time and, too lustful to make it to the nearest bed, simply get it on against the nearest wall. While it’s a position that’s taxing on your upper body, the wall means you’re not supporting all of your partner’s weight. It also offers great access to the neck and breasts so you can get in a lot of passionate kissing, along with some intimate face-to-face time.
3. Standing from Behind
Another public sex favorite that can also work for anal, this position is relatively simple. Both of you are standing, and you enter her from behind. She can be completely upright, in which case you’ll want either a wall, or a tree, or a similarly vertical object for her to lean against. Another way to do it is to have her lean against a desk or table.
4. Woman on Table Sex
For truly intense sex that involves a lot of power, having your feet firmly planted on the ground is a great way to go. Have your partner lie flat on the table (this also works with any roughly waist-high platform), and have her butt pushed right up to the edge. Then, enter her to see how much power and stability you have from being in a standing position. As for her legs, you can have them around you, hanging down or up against your shoulders, or you could even have her lie on her side as well for a differing angle of penetration.
5. Criss Cross
Sex expert Lindsay Tigar says, “this is one of the less standard positions, but great to have in your arsenal.”
“What this position does, essentially, is make your penis feel twice as big as it actually is, and all she has to do is cross her legs,” adds Tigar. “Find yourself a surface that is roughly at hip height. Then, lay your lady down on said surface with her legs draping over the edge. Standing between her legs, enter her, then lift and cross them so they form an X. From here, you can place her ankles on your shoulders. By crossing her legs, you have better access to her G-spot and become the girthiest dude she’s ever had… presumably.”
6. Pile Driver
This one is an intense position by any stretch of the imagination, and one you’re not likely to be able to sustain for long. To get into this one, have her lie on her back, lifting her legs up slowly from her thighs until her torso is coming off the floor. Slowly raise her butt up so that it’s almost above her head, and then straddle her, using up and down motion to enter her. you’re going to have to lean forward somewhat in order to position your penis at the right angle, which is going to take a bit of bending.
7. Bridge and Tunnel
This is a complicated position that shouldn’t be attempted by the inexperienced. That being said, for a couple who are really in sync, it’s a great option for trying something new and burning a few calories.
“The partner in front spreads their legs and bends over, placing their hands on the floor,” says O’Reilly. “The other partner holds onto their hips and slides in from behind.”
8. The Sitting V
Have her sit on a table or counter with enough room to lean back, and with her butt slightly hanging off the edge. Support her back with your hands, placing her legs on your shoulder. Have her grab behind your shoulders for extra support before entering. You control the thrusting in this position because generally keeping her balance is going to be enough of a challenge in itself. This is a tough position, requiring flexibility on her part, and it’s made tougher if she has short legs or you have a long torso. If she can pull if off, she deserves a pat on the back — she might need it for support anyway.
6. Sitting and Kneeling Sex Positions
Of course, standing positions aren’t for everyone. If the two of you don’t match up well height-wise, sitting or kneeling positions can be more comfortable and intimate, while also offering some new and unique options for getting it on.
1. Seated Sex
Sex expert Tigar says if “bedroom sex has got you bored, familiarize yourself with some good old chair sex.”
“Sitting in a sturdy chair where both of your feet can touch the floor, have her straddle you (facing toward each other) and let her lower herself on top of you,” she adds. “Similar to the cowgirl position, she can move herself up and down, or just grind on your junk.”
2. The Lover
Nick Hawk, star of Showtime’s reality show “Gigolos,” says “The man sits at the end of the bed and the woman straddles him. Both of these allow deep penetration and extra skin-to-skin contact.”
3. Kneeling Sex
Another position that’s all about intimacy, kneeling sex can be rewarding if pulled off right. We’d suggest finding a cushion, pillow or yoga mat to take some of the strain off your knees. This position also works best if the man isn’t too much taller than the woman. You kneel, placing your left outstretched knee to the left of the woman and your right leg behind you. The woman does the same. To get penetration, you should try to lower your pelvis beneath your partner’s (hence why this might be difficult for taller folk) and slip your penis into her vagina. Once you’re inside her, this position becomes easier, as she rocks her pelvis back and forth until you both get off.
4. Kneel and Deliver
Another kneeling position, this one doesn’t require a bed or even nice surface to do your thing on. You get on your knees, resting your butt on your hamstrings. Have her sit down slowly until you enter her, wrapping her arms around you for added balance. While this one looks uncomfortable, the angle and stability actually mean this one can be reasonably intense, while providing eye-to-eye contact and a “do-it-anywhere” convenience.
5. The Bridge
A kneeling position for the man, the bridge gives you a wonderful view of her breasts and torso while demanding a lot of her physically. While she creates an arch with her arms and legs, you kneel in front of her and penetrate her. She won’t be able to do too much moving, aside from keeping herself upright, so your job is to grab her ass and start pulling her hips back and forth to get the necessary motion to make the whole thing work. Supporting her ass with your hands a bit will also take some of the strain off her arms.
6. The Butterfly
Dr. Kat Van Kirk, sex expert for Adam & Eve says for this position, “her legs can either be wrapped around his hips, her feet can be flat on the floor or she can have her knees bent up to her breasts.”
“This position allows for her to control the angle of penetration with her hips and both of them have hands free to explore one another and make sure the clitoris isn’t ignored,” she adds. “Plus, he can control the depth and speed of penetration that works for them both. This position also promotes intimacy through ease of eye gazing and kissing […] and it promotes communication because you see one another’s responses to stimulation.”
7. Yab Yum
This one requires a lot of intimacy and patience. To get into this, you sit down facing your partner, wrapping your legs around her. She does the same, keeping her legs inside yours. She should slide her butt forwards a little bit until you can slide inside her. Probably not the one to try on a first date, but it can be rewarding all the same.
7. Unusual Sex Positions
Sex, being the diverse and crazy thing that it is, can’t be easily into six simple categories. So this list has to include a section for all the weird, wild, wet, and wacky positions that simply don’t fit anywhere else. Are you looking to try something a little bit outside the box, to cross a few more things off your bucket list, or to add some serious spice to your life in the bedroom? This is the section for you.
1. The Wheelbarrow
This one is all about her upper body strength and your back and leg strength. Barring some kind of Olympian training you each have, this is probably a bit of a transition position rather than anything that’s going to lead to long-lasting sex or orgasm. Have her start on all fours, then you lift up her pelvis until her vagina is in line with your penis. Grasp her around her hips firmly and thrust into her. Rather than having her try to do vertical pushups, or you pulling her back and forth, do the work with your hips. The position can actually be quite interesting for her clitoris.
2. The Surfboard
Sex expert Tyomi Morgan say, “This position requires a bathtub big enough to accommodate the size of both partners, and can be enhanced by adding some candles and champagne.”
“It is important to only fill the bathtub up half way to avoid overflow when you both sit down,” she adds. “In this position, the male partner sits in the tub with his legs extended and gets to relax. The female partner sits on top of her partner and puts in the work. She can sit with her back facing him, positioned on her knees or with her feet flat in the tub. As with sex on the beach, the water in the tub can wash away natural lubricant, but the feeling of the water between both bodies will feel amazing.”
3. Sex in a Hot Tub
Is there a specific position for the hot tub? Probably not, but it’s a natural place for sex; you’re already in close contact with people wearing very little other clothing anyway. In addition to the jets of a hot tub being a wonderful masturbatory aid for women to get her started (you can also fondle her nipples and lend a hand as well), there are benches all around for the man to sit on. Remember, finish quickly though: you don’t want to be in there for more than 20 minutes.
Scissoring involves you intertwining your legs together, and placing yourself at something approaching a 90-degree angle to each other. Insert yourself into your partner, and then move your hips to thrust in and out. You’ll need to do this slowly and carefully, as it’s pretty easy to slip out in this position. Scissoring is pretty unique because it involves very little eye contact, and places your heads pretty far away from each other. Your body position is such that you can’t really use your hands to fondle her in any way. Little eye contact, a lot of distance, and difficult thrusting make this one a toughie, but sexually experienced couples should give it a go just for the novelty.
5. Scissor Straddle
Though scissoring is a real thing as well, this position requires a bit of twisting to make it happen and some knee endurance. Perfect for the woman to be fully comfortable and let herself go, this puts the man in full command of how fast and how deep he wants to penetrate. As with all kneeling positions, this one is going to seriously test your leg muscles, as well as how cramp-proof you are, but the effort is always worth it.
6. The T-Position
While most positions are have your bodies lined up more-or-less, this one involves putting the “d*ck” into perpendicular. Have her start off by lying on her back, you lie on your side, and penetrate her from the side. This sort of thing either works best on a nice comfy floor or a queen or king-size bed. Once you’re inside her, you control the pace and depth of the thrusting. This position is a little bit less popular because it doesn’t provide as intense or intimate experience as some of the others, but it allows you to shake things up. Additionally, because often men’s penises are longer than they are wide, this means that by effectively turning your penis sideways you can better target her clitoris.
7. The Spork
Sort of a cross between the T-position and the spooning position, this one features the woman on her back while her partner, lying on his side, cradles her and penetrates her from below. It’s a very cuddly position that allows for a decent amount of tenderness (and the whispering of sweet nothings, or dirty talk, depending on what you’re into), plus it’s a great way to switch things up if your partner’s most comfortable on her back and you’re sick of missionary-style positions.
8. The Sit ‘N’ Spin
This position uses the vibrations of your washer or dryer to add a little extra kick to your sexual experience. Sit on the edge of the machine while it’s running (spin cycle works best on a washer), and then have her mount you in cowgirl position, or with her legs wrapped around. From there, she should feel the vibrations running through your penis, making her orgasm all the better. Best of all? Once you’re done, you’ll have clean clothes to change into.
Of course, there are more options out there — like these 10 advanced positions suggested by Dr. Emily Morse — if you’re ready to take things up a notch or two. You can also check out our guides to sex positions for men with big penises, men with small penises, for virgins or overweight people.
All illustrations by Carlee Ranger.
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