What a Partner Will Think of Your Sexual Fantasies

6 Bedroom Fantasies, Rated by How Likely They Are to Come True

Many men share in the same general sexual fantasies: three women in a hot tub, three women in your bed, three women enjoying each other shamelessly on a deserted beach where you just happen to be taking a stroll, and the list goes on.

But, gay and bi guys aside, not all of them relate to girl-on-girl action. Of course there are the more “ordinary” — but no less pleasurable, of course — dreams of actually getting laid at all. The occasional blowjob in front of the TV would be nice too.

Dreams are free! That’s why they’re so great — you can make up anything you like, and nobody can stop you. But if you share your your fantasies with your partner, will they enjoy them so much they’ll want to participate in them — and maybe make them a reality for you?

Let’s break down a few your partner may like… and some they may not.

Fantasies to Share With a Partner

1) Threesomes

The idea of having a threesome is often hard for someone in a relationship to swallow: “So you want to invite someone else into bed with us, do you?” they’ll say. “So I’m not sexy enough for you, huh?” they may think.

Even a partner watching porn can be threatening for some people in relationships, so you really need to make sure that there is a good deal of mutual understanding and trust (and erotic adventurism) between you before you try to convince them to have a threesome.

It can be fun to bring an imaginary third person into bed (i.e. telling a fantasy story involving up-close-and-personal details to turn you both on). But bringing a real person into your shared intimate zone poses some very real (and serious) problems. Even if your partner does agree, discuss the matter properly first — it is highly likely, statistically speaking, to be followed by hurt feelings, and maybe even a breakup.

Likeliness rating: 3/10

2) Anal Sex

If you’re a gay guy, this is much less likely to be an issue. If you’re dating a woman, though, it’s another story. Many guys are denied anal sex by their female partners on some very legitimate grounds: It can be very painful, uncomfortable, messy, and did I mention painful?

This doesn’t necessarily stop people from wanting it, though, and anal sex is a fantasy she can fulfill — if she chooses to. Because anal sex is a fairly well-known phenomenon, and it is her butt you want to play with, this might be within reach. This kind of stuff is no longer considered taboo, and therefore the only reasons she probably won’t do it are practical and/or imagined hygiene and comfort complications.

Promises of plenty of lube and going slow and gentle will help (you may need to barter here, use what you can — let her have access to your butt, perhaps a hot air balloon ride, a nice dinner at expensive restaurant or foot rubs for a week… you get the idea).

Likeliness rating: 7.5/10

3) Watching Them Masturbate

Knowing that you would really enjoy watching your partner bring themself to orgasm can be really exciting, but not everyone is comfortable masturbating in front of a partner, especially less experienced people, or simply early on in a relationship.

If you want your partner to do this, tell them about how sexy you’d find it. This should develop into them feeling much more comfortable touching themself in front of you, and one day — maybe — they will give you the whole shebang. (You could also, of course, suggest mutual masturbation.)

Don’t be forceful, and if they seem uneasy, don’t push it. This is certainly something they might become more comfortable with over time, but pressure will not help your cause.

Likeliness rating: 9/10

4) Watching Them With Someone Else

This is an interesting one, and one your partner isn’t necessarily likely to understand at first, but they may not feel super threatened by it either.

It is something many people can get their heads around — they would be the one with someone else, not you, and therefore they will probably be interested in exploring it further — in your imagination, of course. Whatever the gender of this other person, this is all about voyeurism — with maybe some cuckolding fantasy as well.

This actually happening is unlikely unless you really, really, really want to do it, but even then, your partner probably won’t agree. Unless you’re both into swinging or other “sharing” activities, consensually watching your partner having sex with someone else isn’t particularly likely to happen to you — but it wouldn’t hurt to ask.

Likeliness rating: 2/10

5) Filming Them

This could be regarded as lots of fun, but it is possible that your partner may be a bit wary of having naked footage of them on a digital device, even if it’s yours.

But, on the other hand, these days most everyone has has smartphones with high resolution cameras built into them. This makes filming yourselves very easy — and very easy to delete afterward. It may even turn your partner on to be recorded, and could bring out their inner porn star.

If you want to try, consider letting your partner take nude photos of you first, or try only taking photos of body parts, not faces.

Your partner probably won’t be offended if you share this fantasy with them, but respect their wishes if they doesn’t want to — X-rated filming without permission is absolutely not acceptable. Consent must be given beforehand, and no matter what happens between you, don’t share the photos or video.

Likeliness rating: 8.5/10

6) Role-Playing

Role-playing in the bedroom can be so much fun. Being someone you’re not is fun and exciting, and can encourage all sorts of lewd activities from both of you. Your partner morphing from shy librarian to steaming temptress is a turn-on. It’s different, and variety is the spice of life.

This fantasy is popular with people regardless of gender because nobody likes having plain cheese sandwiches every day of the week.

Fantasy play, including dress-ups, spices up your sex life, no two ways about it. Plan your adventure or have supplies on hand for spontaneous occasions. Make sure the time is right, and dress up too if you can (and if they want you to) to make it more fun.

Likeliness rating: 9/10

Tips for Introducing a Fantasy

Always check that what you are doing is OK with both of you — something that seemed OK half an hour in (i.e. leaping into bed with your partner and their best friend) can quickly change into a disaster.

Though they may play along out of a desire to make you happy, if their feelings have changed or they’re simply not comfortable with this fantasy yet, you’ll need to call it off and spend some time engaging in aftercare.

That being said, sharing fantasies is a beautiful way for a couple to connect. It is good for a giggle, good for a change and you can both learn something new about each other. It can take a while to get used to discussing your fantasies, but practice.

And make sure your partner gets in on the talking too — get them involved, see what their fantasies are, and do swaps.

Using a wish list can be a great idea, with both of you listing things that you have never done that you would love to do someday. Then, tick them off as you work your way through.

And remember: Couples who communicate well have more and better sex— fantasies and all.

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Source: AskMen