Never Have I Ever: Had a Glory Hole Experience
Never Have I Ever: Had a Glory Hole Experience
Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).
Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.
Glory holes play a crucial character in modern history, from those in the adult video stores back when Times Square was still gritty, to the government’s suggestion that glory holes are a COVID-19-safe way to get it on without swapping spit.
In case you’ve never seen the light of a glory hole, they’re small circles cut out of a wall so one can shove their penis through, typically to enjoy anonymous sex — not just with a stranger, but with a stranger one may never actually see.
“The anonymity is what makes glory holes arousing to so many men,” explains Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and sex expert for the queer cruising app, Sniffies.
“It feels primal. There’s no attraction at all, just sensation. There’s also such a focus on the guy’s dick, which is hot. No surprise, but men are obsessed with their dicks. So to have someone give your dick — and only your dick — attention is such a turn-on.”
Of course, glory holes aren’t just for men. Perhaps because the boys have too much experience with them, I interviewed a woman about her first time with a glory hole. Layla is a 26-year-old pansexual woman in the Los Angeles area who recently tried one for the first time at her local sex party. While it wasn’t the full-on anonymous gang bang she’s often fantasized of, even with thin walls, the objectification and variety (keep reading to learn which dick was her favorite) made her cum her face off and left her eager for more.
AskMen: So I met you on the internet right after your first glory hole experience. Before we get into the details, can you give our readers an elevator pitch of what happened?
Layla: Sure! So after drooling over the idea of glory holes for some time, I sucked three dicks through one a few weeks ago at a sex party.
Did it just happen randomly? Can you walk us through the night?
It wasn’t at, like, an official sex club; there’s a party I go to sometimes at a private residence that turns into a sex club. One of the rooms is sectioned off into smaller rooms, like old-school little sex cubbies. While there are other areas of the party where more group sex takes place, and you can really be an exhibitionist or voyeur ’cause everyone can see you, more private people can hook up in these rooms. They all have condoms and lube — you know, good sex parties keep those around — but the rooms also have kink toys, like paddles and whips and whatnot, and one has a glory hole. I’ve been eyeing it since I started going three years ago.
What turns you on about glory holes? Did you have an interest in them before finding this party?
Have you ever seen that gang-bang porn where women are, like, boxed off, so only their bottom-half shows? And everyone has sex with them? But they’re just having sex with a pussy, basically?
Yes, I have stumbled through that section of porn.
OK, so that’s like my go-to when I want to cum. I think about that and have way too many porn videos saved to admit. Something about the idea of being an object, a cum dumpster, I guess, just makes me cream my pants. I don’t know anywhere yet where I can do that… but a glory hole seemed like the ideal first place to start. In the porn I watch like, multiple, who knows how many, men will fuck these women, and they don’t even know who they are or what they look like. They just have to do their job and take it.
Objectification is super hot. As women, we’re taught that being objectified is bad, but within kink, objectification can help separate yourself from any societally-induced shame surrounding the very normal desire to act like a horny slut. You can reclaim yourself as a sexual object.
Yes! Exactly that.
So why start with a glory hole if your favorite porn features anonymous vaginal sex?
It’s just that I already know this house, this party, and there’s a glory hole there. I know that oral sex still comes with risk, but I do have some anxiety around pregnancy or STIs: What if a condom breaks or some dick takes it off, and I didn’t realize? Oral sex seemed safer. But I think it was mainly that I knew this glory hole existed, and existed at a place I know, with a crowd that I pretty much trust.
Yes, the risk of exposure to HIV is lower with oral sex, but there’s still throat gonorrhea…
Oh my god, don’t even talk about it — I’ll get too anxious. I get tested every three months, and so far so good, but still.
Well then, let’s talk about R.A.C.K., or risk-aware consensual kink, the acronym embraced by the kink community. It means that as long as all parties are aware of the risks and consensually accept them, it’s OK to relax and let yourself enjoy. It sounds like you’re aware of the risks.
Yes, thank you! Plus the risk of not trying sucks, hahaha.
OK, backtracking. How did you decide to finally try the glory hole?
There was a party coming up. I was going with, let’s call him Aaron, a friend and fuck buddy. I usually bring a date if I go to a sex party. He’s been to this party too and actually used the glory hole before (not with me). We planned it all out. Next time I do it I want it to be more random. My assignment (he’s a dom and always giving assignments) was to suck three dicks. First we went in the room together and did an impact play session, and after he tortured me dripping wet, he got two of his, or our, friends, while I waited, and they went into the room next door and started shoving their dicks through the hole. I sucked them all off and swallowed each one.
How did the actual experience compare to the fantasy?
It was honestly one of the hottest things that I’ve ever done, so I can’t complain. One dick after another, having to focus totally on sucking, the taste of different cocks, and different cum. By the second cock my clit was throbbing so hard I made myself cum by barely touching myself. I got in trouble for that, I should have asked Aaron if I was allowed (to cum). I guess the only way it didn’t match up was that I could tell who was who… not by recognizing their dicks but because the walls are thin enough I can hear their voices, haha.
What was the hottest part about it?
I really got off on the variety of the dicks. Aaron is pretty big, but one of the other guys has a short little fat cock, and for whatever reason that one turned me on the most.
Yes, that does make sense — sex isn’t always supposed to be pretty. Would you use the glory hole again, and what would you do differently?
I am definitely going to use it again. Next time I just want to go in there on my own, and let random people use it. I’d love if a woman or non-binary person (I’m pansexual) shoved a strap-on through. That would be really weird and fun. I’m a submissive, but if I liked that I’d even want to try sticking my own strap-on dick through to see what the top experience is like.
Strap-on glory holes — why didn’t I think of that before? Brilliant! Thank you for sharing your glory hole journey with us.
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