How to Satisfy Your Partner With a Small Penis
How to Blow Their Mind in Bed, Even If You’re Not Well-Endowed
How to Blow Their Mind in Bed, Even If You’re Not Well-Endowed
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What makes a sexual experience satisfying?
For many people, emotional intimacy, trust, and meeting your partner’s needs all top the list of must-haves. Meanwhile, the stereotype that a bigger penis means better sex has slowly started to crumble over the years.
Still, plenty of men with smaller penises — or simply average-size penises — feel insecure and inadequate because of this long-held belief.
To prove once and for all that great sex has nothing to do with how much you’re packing, we’ve consulted a few experts and folks with real experience.
And as it turns out, it’s absolutely 100% possible to pleasure a partner regardless of the size of your penis. So let’s break down why penis size is irrelevant to satisfying sex and how to make sex pleasurable regardless of penis size.
Debunking the Myth That Bigger Is Better
Before we get into why bigger doesn’t exactly mean better, it’s important to define what exactly is big vs. average in the grand scheme of penises.
“The average size of an erect American penis is 5 inches when erect,” explains Jenni Skyler, LMFT, certified sex therapist for AdamEve.com.
Sound small to you? Well, how many penises have you seen in real life? The truth is, porn has seriously skewed our perception of what’s big and what’s average by showing almost exclusively male actors with significantly above-average length and girth.
Even if you measure below what’s considered average, pleasure spots for both the vagina and anus are still well within reach with smaller penises. Both the G-spot and the P-spot are located just a few inches inside the vagina and rectum (respectively). Not to mention, these spots can be effectively stimulated using toys and fingers, too.
Plus, studies have shown that most women don’t achieve orgasm from straight up P in the V sex, anyway. For the vast majority of people with vaginas, knowing the right way to stimulate your partner’s clitoris is much more important than whatever your member measures.
Techniques & Positions for Guys With Small Penises
1. Doggy Style
Doggy-style sex instantly gives the penetrating partner more depth since they enter from behind.
A bonus — you can easily stimulate nipples, the clitoris, or any other area that feels extra good to your partner since you’ll have a free hand. If you’re in search of the G-spot (or P-spot for men), this position provides easy access.
“As someone below average, doggy style has always been my go-to position,” says Mark, 32. “My current girlfriend was hesitant to try it at first since she’d been in pain with other, probably larger partners. But since trying it for the first time with me, it’s become one of her favorites, too.”
2. Woman on Top
“Riding the penis from on top can help access more of a partner’s internal nerve endings,” Skyler explains.
Woman on Top, or Cowgirl, also puts your partner in the driver’s seat, allowing her to change the motion and speed for maximum pleasure. This position is also ideal for clitoral stimulation, with her rubbing on your shaft.
“I’ve slept with a few people on the smaller side, but I never noticed much of a difference [when I was] on top,” says Claire, 23. “Everything still felt good to me, plus I felt like I could actually ride them a little harder without feeling any pain.”
3. Grind and Swivel
It’s not the size of the prize but the motion of the ocean, so to speak. Instead of thrusting in and out, try grinding and swiveling with your partner to yield more pleasure. This circular motion helps hit more pleasure spots (the clitoris, for one) while allowing you to penetrate deeper — helped by using a sex pillow or wedge to get the position right.
Products for Guys With Small Penises
Sex toys can be tons of fun regardless of what you’re working with down there — but certain ones go a long way with smaller penises. Here are a few toys that deliver big pleasure:
Charged OHare
Part cock ring, part vibrator, this ring from Screaming O works hard to deliver pleasure. Its vibrating tip feels good on the shaft while stimulating the clit, plus the ring constricts blood flow to help strengthen erections.
$62.99 from ScreamingO.com
Vibrating Penis Sleeve Kit
Add length and girth to your member with stimulating vibrations that both you and your partner can enjoy. This kit comes with five stretchy sleeves in different sizes and textures to experiment with, along with a powerful bullet vibrator for added stimulation.
$17.99 at AdamEve.com
KingCock Strap-On
We can tell you that size doesn’t matter until we’re blue in the face. That being said, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to try out what it feels like to be packing more than you currently do.
“Using a wearable dildo can feel really empowering and sexy to simulate having a larger penis,” says Skyler. This one from Adam & Eve comes in 6-inch and 8-inch versions, with rave reviews.
$79.99 from AdamEve.com
All illustrations by Carlee Ranger.
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