Signs Your Partner Is Sexually Satisfied

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How do you know if your partner is sexually satisfied?

In a perfect world, talking about sex would be easy. No one would feel insecure about being given constructive feedback, and everyone would feel empowered to ask for exactly what they want.

Of course, that’s not the world we live in. Sexual satisfaction is undoubtedly important in a relationship, as is communication.

But if you’re looking for subtle signs of satisfaction without asking, you’ve come to the right place. Here’s a look at ways to gauge sexual satisfaction in your relationship — and why it’s important.

What Does “Sexually Satisfied” Mean?

Contrary to popular belief, sexual satisfaction doesn’t always mean achieving orgasm. Sure, orgasms can be important — more so to some people than others. But the journey is just as crucial as the destination when it comes to sexual satisfaction.

“Sexual satisfaction is a subjective experience,” explains Dr. Jenni Skyler, LMFT, certified sex therapist for AdamEve.com. “For one person, it could be a mind-blowing orgasm — for another person, it could be a deep heart connection of oneness.”

Simply put, sexual satisfaction means meeting your partner’s needs. Knowing what your partner wants from the experience makes it easy to ensure they’re satisfied.

Skyler says it’s important to factor context into the equation to achieve this.

“If a couple knows they only have 10 minutes, the satisfaction could be from pulling off an orgasm or titillating experience in a short amount of time,” says Skyler. “If they have two hours on vacation, the satisfaction could be about luxuriating in a relaxed, sensual way with no pressure or restrictions.”

Why Is Satisfying Your Partner Important?

A successful relationship is all about meeting and understanding your partner’s needs.

This applies to all areas of the partnership, but it can be especially impactful regarding intimate needs. Understanding and meeting the sexual needs of your partner can help deepen the intimacy and trust between both of you.

Plus, the more satisfied your partner is, the more sex you’ll likely have. So it’s worth understanding whether or not your partner is sexually satisfied.

Not everyone has the same sexual needs in a relationship, so the art of compromise is also important here.

“One person might be kinky; the other vanilla,” says Skyler.

In cases like these, “trade-offs” might be necessary.

“The kinky person may have a higher satisfaction in the kinky encounter, while the vanilla person has a more sexually satisfying experience the next encounter,” she says. “Discussing the needs and finding compromise and solutions is the key to ensuring you satisfy your partner.”

Or, you might both have intense fetishes — but they’re different ones. The important thing is that you both feel capable of expressing the things that turn you on to each other.

Signs Your Partner Is Sexually Satisfied

1. They Make Noise

Porn-friendly sounds of satisfaction are typically different from the sounds of real-life sexual satisfaction. Small moans of enjoyment, gasps of pleasure, and intensified breathing are all sounds that tell you you’re on the right track. Bonus points if your partner gives real-time feedback, asking for it “harder” or “faster.”

“I think breathing is a big giveaway for whether or not someone’s having a good time or a hard time in bed,” says Kai, 29. “Breathing fast or deliberately slow like they’re taking it all in, depending on your pace, are good signs in my book. If your partner is holding their breath, it may be a sign they’re in pain but don’t want to tell you and ruin the moment, so it’s worth checking in with them.”

2. They Make Eye Contact

Prolonged eye contact is an intimate experience in itself. Looking into someone’s eyes during sex can also tell you a lot about how the experience is for them. If your partner makes eye contact with you, they’re present and focused on your lovemaking.

“If a guy is bad in bed, usually my first line of defense is not to look him in the eyes,” says Claire, 23. “I feel like it’s harder to say at the moment that you’re not enjoying what’s happening, especially if it’s a newer relationship.”

3. They Use Profanity

Not everyone who’s enjoying sex is going to start cursing like a sailor — especially if the situation calls for you to keep the volume down. But it’s a good sign if your partner lets a few dirty words slip from their mouth while you’re going at it.

“When it’s so good that they yell ‘f*ck,’ that’s when you know it’s good,” says Jada, 27. “This might not be everyone, but this is the sign for me.”

4. They Laugh

No one wants to be laughed at during sex. But sex inevitably creates laughable scenarios; one of you falls off the bed, someone farts accidentally, something you do tickles. If your partner feels safe and comfortable enough with you to laugh at it in front of you, things are going better than you might think.

“I sleep with a ton of pillows on my bed,” says Sam, 26. “One time, when we were having sex at my place early on, we just got on top of the sheets and started going at it without moving them. Midthrust, my partner, stops, sees my neck is uncomfortable in this position, and starts pulling them out from under me with this determined look on his face. I burst out laughing; then he did, too. Laughing together made me feel safe to be myself with him, plus the fact that he cared enough to adjust things for me was a big green flag.”

5. They Ask for More

If your partner isn’t sexually satisfied, they’re not going to be the ones initiating things. Someone happy and satisfied with the sex they’re having is likely going to be starting foreplay, making comments about what they’d like to do to you later, and generally putting the energy out there that they want more of you. Paying attention to these cues is very telling, so take note.

“In my 20s, I dated a guy I really liked who didn’t take feedback well in bed,” said Rosa, 32. “I remember coming up with excuses for why I couldn’t spend the night before I officially ended things.”

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Source: AskMen