Never Have I Ever: Tried Sounding

We Tried to Understand What It’s Like to Put Something in Your Urethra for Pleasure

We Tried to Understand What It’s Like to Put Something in Your Urethra for Pleasure

Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).

Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.

One man’s pain is another man’s pleasure. 

Such a truth is best defined by the act of sounding: a sexual act that involves inserting a thin object into the urethra of a penis. 

Sounding must be done carefully. You need a sterile instrument, such as a medical sounding device, although some prefer knitting needles. 

At least that’s what Brad, a 71-year-old airline pilot, uses when he wants something more personalized than a medical sounding kit. While Brad primarily identifies as straight, he’s open to exploring with men and believes that we are sexual animals who deserve to safely and consensually explore our kinks. 

Brad has been sticking things up his urethra for so long (since childhood) that he doesn’t remember the exact first time he tried it, but he sure knows sounding wisdom that speaks to a larger embracement of kinks. 

His sounding first time and continued enjoyment shows that if you’re brave enough, you can enjoy your kink for decades. So what is penile penetration really like? Let’s talk about it.

AskMen: What is your first memory of sounding?

I was so young … I don’t even recall. It’s something I’ve been interested in my whole life, including now. It was always interesting to me, and I used various things to put in my urethra. I just liked the feeling of it. 

What would you use when you were younger?

Things that fit in easily, something out of the drawer. The cake tester, or something like that. 

What about a cocktail straw? A man I met on Tinder requested that once. 

They have sharp edges. You have to be super careful about that. That’s one of the most important things, to make sure you do not damage your urethra. 

How do you protect your urethra?

If you’re lucky enough to be like me, you make a lot of pre-cum. I never put anything in my urethra unless it’s completely coated with pre-cum. What that does is protect your urethra, because it provides a barrier between whatever you’re putting in there, and it also provides lubrication. Whatever you’re putting in is going to go in a lot easier. I don’t like using lube, because that has issues in terms of irritating my urethra. 

What do you use now?

My favorite is probably a knitting needle, one that fits comfortably. I filed it down and blunted it. You have to be super careful that whatever you’re putting in there doesn’t have sharp edges, because it will catch the skin in your urethra and make you bleed. I also put a little bit of a bend in it, because you need a bend that goes around the corners of the urethra. You can wash knitting needles and clean them thoroughly. I also ordered a set of medical sounds, those are pretty damn cool, too. They have different diameters to find the right size. 

What advice would you offer those who want to try but are scared of hurting their urethra? 

First is to make sure you’re lubed up. Second is to make sure that whatever you’re putting in there is completely clean and sterilized. Wash well with hot soap and water, your hands included. You don’t want to get any infections. The most important thing is that if it’s hurting, stop. You’re going to hurt yourself, you’re going to make yourself bleed and you’re going to risk an infection. 

Is sounding a part of your adult sex life? How did it translate from something you did as a kid to now?

For most of my married life, it wasn’t really a part of my sex life. It has become more so in the last 10 years. I’ve asked a few of my lady friends to try it, and they’ve been less interested in it. Maybe they got a medical sound in about half an inch and it was uncomfortable for them, so I stopped. I haven’t found a woman who is interested in sounding, although I’ve had a few false starts. I would have to say the most of the time, I do it by myself when I’m masturbating and watching porn or something that I’ve found arousing. Whatever turns your crank, right? 

My point of view is that we’re sexual animals, and I like the idea of exploring my sexuality. I’ve decided if I’m a sexual animal, it’s appropriate to throw off the chains of convention and explore my sexuality. Part of that is being bi-curious. A guy actually just texted me now; he likes sucking my c*ck, I like sucking his c*ck. He wanted penetration, but it’s not really my thing. And part of that is sounding. Unsure of what you like? Go out there and find out. 

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Source: AskMen