Str8Curious: If I Enjoy Rimjobs, Does That Make Me Gay?
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Str8Curious is a monthly AskMen column where out and proud lifestyle expert Joey Skladany answers burning questions from heterosexual men about sex, dating, and the LGBTQ+ community. No topic is off limits as he candidly lends advice, debunks stereotypes, and gives it to you straight — err — gay. Should you be interested in submitting a question for editorial consideration (and we will respect anonymity), feel free to ping Joey directly on Instagram or email him at [email protected]).
The Question
My girlfriend and I have been experimenting a bit in the bedroom and I’ve come to realize that I really love getting my ass eaten. She doesn’t have a problem doing it, but I am wondering if this is a sign I could potentially be gay or bi. Am I overthinking it? – Jerry, Miami, FL
The Answer
Yes, Jerry. Yes you are. Enjoying a rim job is about as gay as deciding to wear a pink shirt. Just because society has labeled certain activities as “gay,” doesn’t mean that the natural next step is a dick up your ass. (And even if it was, I still wouldn’t rush to label you.)
The reality is that men have an erogenous zone, a.k.a. a g-spot, in their prostate. Despite it chillin’ two inches inside the body between the base of the penis and rectum, even the slightest bit of stimulation, either by touch, lick, or full-on penetration, can activate pleasure, thanks to our nervous system.
Doing what makes you feel good doesn’t make you gay — it makes you human. And if you have a trusting partner who is willing to explore new sexual acts in the bedroom, consider yourself lucky! She has dismissed gender roles and stereotypes and is completely focused on getting you off. That’s a huge win! (But please, for the love of all things holy, return the favor.)
Now, if you’re fantasizing about guys while your lady is lashing, then that’s an entirely different conversation. But even then, I’d implore you to view sexuality as a spectrum. Nothing in the world is black and white, and this applies to practically every defining aspect of being human.
Some people are shy, while others are gregarious. Some are neat, others, radically unkempt. Sure, there are extremes, but the majority of the world’s population falls somewhere in the middle. Why can’t this be the case when it comes to sexuality and attraction? And why can’t this be an element of your life that you explore without guilt or fear of judgment?
If you’re single and think a guy eating your ass could be fun, give it a shot. Hell, if you want to do the ass-eating yourself, try it. You only live life once and should never be on your deathbed thinking “damn, I wish Adam would have given me that tongue-pounding when I had the chance.”
But ultimately, no…getting your ass eaten, eating ass, or even craving a rocket up your rectum doesn’t make you automatically gay — or even bi. It makes you a perfectly normal, curious being with (more common than you think) needs and desires.
Just be sure to do your girl a solid by prepping the hell out of your hole beforehand. She doesn’t deserve to comb through body hair with her teeth (unless she’s into that). And hygiene? Yeah, do a lot more than a quick rinse with that off-brand body wash. The surface and inside should be clean enough to serve sashimi on top of.
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