How Penis Size Can Impact a Man's Sense of Self-Worth

Is Your Size Down There Negatively Affecting Your Self-Esteem?

A lot of guys put a lot of stock in their member. If you’ve seen any spam emails or ads on porn streaming sites before, you’ve probably intuited that a ton of men wish their dicks were bigger. It may seem strange, but that little guy has a large hold on men’s self-image.

The first time I started to notice my own size was the first time I slept with another man. I had never really thought about whether or not I was “big” or not, but after I saw another man in the flesh, I started thinking that on some level, maybe dick size did matter.

We live in a world of “bigger is better,” after all — whether we’re upgrading our fast food meals or wanting a bigger TV, modern culture has a size obsession. But is that healthy? Knowing you realistically can’t do much — if anything — to impact your size, wouldn’t it make more sense to focus on loving the penis you have?

Besides, how much does penis size impact your partner’s pleasure? There’s research that suggests it’s not a huge factor, especially for straight guys or men who primarily sleep with women, since they’re more likely to climax from clitoral stimulation than penetration.

But regardless of who — if anyone — you want to sleep with, you can still feel insecure about your penis, and it’s a topic that too many men feel negative emotions about in secret. Being the investigative journalist that I am, I decided to ask the guys I know about a time that their little friend caused them to be self-conscious about themselves.

As I spoke to the 14 men below, a pattern began to appear: comparison is the root of all evil. So what do men really think about their penis sizes? Read on to find out:

“The first time I really became aware of how big I was was in middle school when I began using the locker room. I was always like, ‘How am I measuring up?'” — Mike

“The first time I hooked up with a girl, she said, ‘Wow, it is bigger than my ex’s!’ and that’s when I was like, ‘Yeah, I guess dick size does matter.’” — Christopher
“I found out I was pretty, uh, lucky down there the first time I got changed in the locker rooms after gym class. My friend was like, ‘Sh*t, dude.’ It made me feel good, but at the same time I don’t think about it that often.” — Joshua

“When I first had sex with my girlfriend, she kept asking ‘Is that it?’ and that’s when I knew I probably would never measure up (haha). Needless to say, she dumped me a few weeks later. I take it in stride, though. Not everyone needs a big dick.” — Jasson

“I try not to watch porn anymore, because those guys are like freakin’ gods and I’m a mere mortal. In all seriousness though, as great as porn is, I think it builds up this insecurity.” — Rob
“When I first saw another dick in person, hard, I was like, ‘Hmmm, yeah, this seems like a big deal.’ Being a gay guy, I feel like everyone wants to talk about their dick size.” — Eli

“I don’t really notice other guys’ dicks or their sizes. I’m sort of stuck with the one I’ve got.” — Edward
“I remember watching HBO after hours and seeing a guy’s soft dick and immediately comparing mine to it. I felt really… inadequate? I guess that would be the right word. I’m not sure, it was just the first time I ever really considered that it could matter.” — Aaron
“I think I first started caring about my dick size when I overheard some girls in school talking about their boyfriends’ [penises] and thinking, ‘I really hope that they think mine is OK.’” — Nicholas

“I remember being in a group sex situation and being really self-conscious about myself. Even though I really shouldn’t be, it’s like ingrained in my mind to compare myself to other people, and sex is such a massive part of our culture. It was a bummer for sure.”— Miles
“Porn. Porn is when I realized that dick size mattered. I knew I would never be, like, 12 inches, but then I learned that most girls don’t want that anyways, and felt fine.” — Noah
“Eh, I guess I always noticed that it mattered, but as long as you look proportional, I’m sure you’re fine. We gotta stop putting so much stock into how we measure up — pardon the pun.” — Leo
“I think I realized I was bigger than other guys when the girl I was seeing at the time couldn’t handle it. Then it happened again, and again, and again. I would take being average over having a big schlong any day of the week.”— Kevin

“I guess the first time I noticed my penis size in relation to other guys is when I would jerk off with my middle school friends. It wasn’t like a gay thing, we just would jerk off together while watching porn. I definitely would sneak a peek at my friends to see who was bigger.”— Curtis

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Source: AskMen