Best Sex Tricks
7 Awesome Simple Techniques to Help You Become a Master of Pleasure in Bed
7 Awesome Simple Techniques to Help You Become a Master of Pleasure in Bed
No one wants to be a mediocre lover.
In a perfect world, we would all be sex gods — we’d know how to please our partners without asking questions, making mistakes, or encountering awkward mishaps.
In reality, all of the above is a critical part of learning to become a master of pleasure.
“Sexual pleasure is highly individualistic,” explains Rachel Wright, licensed psychotherapist and sex expert for Zumio. “What works for one person might not work for another.”
That said, it’s totally understandable to want to have somewhere to start. If you’re looking for a few tricks that are likely to deliver lots of pleasure, we’ve got your back. Just make sure you’re communicating with your partner while trying them out.
“Pay attention to your partner’s body language and verbal cues, and be open to discussing what feels good and what doesn’t,” says Wright. “Experimenting safely and consensually with different techniques and being attentive to each other’s desires will make your sexual experiences more fulfilling and pleasurable.”
Ready to get started with experiencing better sex? Here are a few pleasure hacks to try with your partner.
Tips to Try Before Sex
Build Anticipation
Did you know that anticipation is scientifically proven to increase pleasure?
“Anticipation increases dopamine levels in the brain, heightening arousal and excitement,” Wright explains.
The earlier you can start building it, the better.
“Try sexting throughout the day,” says Wright. “Send teasing messages or photos to build excitement.”
When you’re finally together, make foreplay excruciatingly slow.
“Instead of going straight to genital touch, focus on non-erogenous zones or less intense erogenous zones first,” Wright says.
Brush your lips over your partner’s ears, caress the small of their back, and gently graze their wrists. Then, work your way up to more sensitive spots, like nipples, inner thighs, etc.
Turn It Into a Game
To build anticipation further, Dr. Jenni Skyler, LMFT, certified sex therapist for AdamEve.com, suggests turning it into a game.
“One person has two full minutes to turn on their partner, then they trade,” she explains. “The other person offers two minutes while their partner lays or sits. Repeat four to five times until you both can’t stand it.”
Slow Dance
Even if you can’t dance, pressing up against your partner and moving your bodies together is an easy way to get the juices flowing, so to speak.
It builds anticipation and allows you to tease one another until you both can’t take it anymore and need to move things to the bedroom.
Run your hands down your partner’s body, squeeze them in tight to yours, and push your parts up against theirs like you’re horny at your high school dance.
“For extra ambiance, use salt lamps for sensual lighting,” says Skyler.
Make Out on the Counter or Table
Initiating sex in a new and different way than what you normally do can add novelty to the routine.
“Sit one person on the counter, while the other is in between their legs,” says Skyler.
Bonus points if you can get the seated partner’s pants off and start the foreplay right there. Just…remember to wipe that counter down after.
Tips to Try During Sex
Nipple Play
Anyone with nipples can benefit from this trick.
“Nipples are loaded with nerve endings, and stimulating them activates the same brain areas as genital play, enhancing the sexual experience,” Wright explains.
Everyone has their preference for how they like to have their nips touched, but as a general rule of thumb, Wright recommends keeping your techniques varied.
“Use different types of touches such as pinching, twisting, and light pulling,” she says. “Adjust the intensity according to your partner’s feedback.”
If your partner is up for it, use your mouth to stimulate their nipples.
“Gentle sucking or using the tongue can escalate arousal,” says Wright.
Want to get creative? Incorporate temperature changes into the mix.
“Apply warm or cold sensations, such as with ice cubes or warm oil, to heighten sensitivity,” says Wright.
The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT)
The Coital Alignment Technique is one of the easiest tricks for better stimulation for people with a clitoris — and it’s as easy as simply shifting your positioning.
“The penetrating partner positions themselves slightly higher up than in the typical missionary,” Wright explains. “Instead of regular thrusting, they move more in a grinding or rocking motion, so their pelvis rubs against the clitoris.”
Try slipping a pillow underneath your partner to help everything align.
Prostate Play
Slow, consensual stimulation of the prostate can be a game changer for men, whatever gender of person they’re used to sleeping with.
“The prostate is a highly sensitive gland, often referred to as the ‘male G-spot,’” Wright says. “Stimulating it can produce intense pleasure and strong orgasms.”
“Start with external pressure or stimulation by either rubbing the perineum (the area between the testicles and anus) or stimulating it with a toy,” says Wright. “Then, with consent and lubrication, gently insert a finger or a toy designed for prostate stimulation into the anus. Use slow, gentle motions to massage the front wall of the rectum.”
Don’t forget to check in with your partner throughout the process.
“Communication is key to finding what feels best,” says Wright.
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Source: AskMen
