Str8Curious: How to Give a Guy a Blowjob
4 Tips Everyone Should Know Before Giving a Guy Oral Pleasure
4 Tips Everyone Should Know Before Giving a Guy Oral Pleasure
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The Question
I have been exploring sex with men, but am completely self-conscious about my blowjob abilities. In fact, I think I may be downright terrible and don’t want to embarrass myself during my next hook-up. Do you have any quick tips? – Travis, Chattanooga, TN
The Answer
As a self-proclaimed anal-hating homosexual (a.k.a. a side), I am tickled to finally receive this ever-so-important question. Blowjobs are, after all, kind of my thing. And as a food writer and cookbook author, let’s just say that I’ve become a certified expert at putting things in my mouth.
I’ll preface my advice by declaring that men, inarguably, give the best head because they share the same anatomy. They know what feels good, what doesn’t feel great, and what is deserving of an Oscar (or at least an AVN award). But performing oral sex and receiving it are obviously two entirely different things.
To help with the former, there are a handful of tips (and never just focus on the tip, for starters) to consider before your mate drops trou and stuffs your face like a mailbox. Keep these four pieces of advice in mind and always remember to breathe — if he’s packing, that nose will actually be doing most of the work.
1. Put Your Tongue to Work
Giving a great blowjob is not just having a guy treat your head like a watermelon with a dick-sized hole cut into it. It’s an opportunity for you to show off your skills and perform a bit of tongue gymnastics. Lick slowly up and down the shaft, treat the head like it’s your favorite-tasting lollipop, and loosen your jaw to prepare for some potential deepthroating.
No matter the technique, it’s going to require a significant amount of effort. Embrace it. Your partner will find ways to repay you. And if he doesn’t, then you’ll save your mouth from giving unnecessary blowjobs in the future (with selfish ol’ him, at least).
2. Don’t Forget the Balls
Or the inner leg… or the taint. There are other areas in the groin that are sensitive in the best way possible and you shouldn’t be afraid to wander away from the trunk and into the bushes (or even the hole in the ground, if you catch my drift.)
This is also where it is A-OK to use your hands so that you can provide stimulation to two areas at the same time.
3. Cum-municate
While many dudes will be quite vocal with moans and dirty talk, don’t be afraid to ask if something feels good and if you should keep doing it. This will save you a whole lot of time from focusing on the parts that won’t have him seeing stars.
4. Edge It
The obvious end goal is to get your partner off and have him give Old Faithful a run for her money, but part of the joy of head-giving is getting him close to cumming and then pausing briefly to extend the euphoria. This will yield a bigger load and a more intense orgasm, which is ideal for someone like me who doesn’t surrender the booty often and wants to prove why it isn’t necessary.
Despite being part of its name, a blowjob doesn’t have to be a job. It can be a way to, of course, get off a romantic interest, but also show off some oral tricks and treats. Feel free to experiment with your tongue, but if you stick to these simple steps, you may just land yourself a husband (or at least a relief from a future dry spell).
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