Never Have I Ever: Participated in an Orgy
Ever Been Curious About an Orgy? We Spoke to Someone Who Was Part of a Really Hot One
Ever Been Curious About an Orgy? We Spoke to Someone Who Was Part of a Really Hot One
Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).
Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.
Full-blown orgies, where one is having sex with multiple people (at once), make threesomes seem vanilla by comparison.
Few of us ever get an invite, and if we did, we might not know what to expect, or how to deal with such sensory overload.
But because it’s impossible not, at the least, to be curious about orgies, a primal type of parties that have been happening since antiquity, we spoke with Mary, a 37-year-old, bisexual woman from Utah.
Mary participated in her first orgy last summer. There were twelve people present. Mary told us about the ice-breaker games, the scariest part, and the hottest part (phew!), plus advice for anyone considering the experience themself.
AskMen: What were the circumstances under which you attended an orgy?
Mary: My partner at the time had hosted or been involved with group sex parties. I was invited by him, he knew I had been interested and intrigued with group sex dynamics. This particular orgy had a dom/sub theme, roughly half the group showed up to participate in a dominant role and half in a submissive role.
Hot. How did the orgy begin, and were their safety precautions?
We began the night talking as a group, each person shared STI testing/status, desires for the orgy, kinks, safe words, hard limits.
We did some icebreakers to help everyone loosen up (the group had a mix of people experienced in group sex and first timers).
I know for participants that had different group sex experiences before, this party was different in that there was no heavy drinking/drugs allowed, and the conversations at the beginning of the night around consent/testing/limits/desires may not happen at other events.
What did you wear?
I wore a sexy black bodysuit, with a tight black dress over top for the beginning of the night.
Did you have previous group sex experience before this?
My other group sex experiences had only been threesomes.
So what was it like?
Everyone who identified in the sub role was blindfolded and led to the bedroom by the dom. For the beginning of the group sex, us subs were paired off with a dom/domme, plus we were blindfolded, so there was a lot of auditory stimulation, which is a big turn on for me. I could hear what was going on around me, directions being given, moans, but I couldn’t see what was happening.
The best part was the connection I made with another girl at the party in a submissive role, she and I bonded right away, and ended up being paired off with a husband/wife dominating us. I was somewhat nervous, so she and I holding hands and being directed to get each other off was really beautiful.
Once the night went on, blindfolds came off and it was more of a traditional group sex dynamic. I found that I loved watching this beautiful woman ride my partner’s dick until she came, while she and I kissed.
I loved seeing the different forms of pleasure and sex going on around me. Another favorite moment was when several people restrained me, holding me down, while one person used a magic wand on me and forced me to orgasm over and over with everyone else watching.
What, if anything, was challenging?
The most challenging part for me was only initial nerves and fear, as I had not met my partner’s other partners and was worried I would be jealous or want to flee. However, I am glad I pushed myself to face my feelings and insecurities. It led to an intense night of pleasure, personal growth, and strengthened my relationship.
What advice would you give to someone else considering trying an orgy?
Advice I would give to someone considering group sex is to evaluate your insecurities and communication if you’re in a relationship and participating in group sex together.
At this party, there were several couples that ended up leaving shortly after people started having sex, because someone was triggered and had a large, unexpected, emotional response.
I would also think about the people you’re engaging with, maybe more anonymous is your style, or maybe it will be a more positive experience with people you know and can debrief with afterwards
Would you do it again?
I would definitely like to have group sex again! It confirmed some of my kinks, like how much I like watching and being watched.
Editor’s Note: This marks the 69th instalment of the Never Have I Ever series. Nice. We think that’s a fitting point to call it a day; this column has been ongoing since 2018, after all, and there are only so many sexual experiences! We’re going to end regular monthly publication of the column here, but there may still be new ones from time to time. In the immediate future, Sophie will be launching a new monthly column for AskMen shortly. Keep your eyes peeled!
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Source: AskMen
