Never Have I Ever: Attended an Exclusive Private Sex Club

Here’s What It’s Like to Attend an Exclusive Private Sex Club for a Wild Night

Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).

Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.

“The dress code for gentlemen is black tie — tuxedo and bowtie. Ladies may choose between evening wear and lingerie (or both).”

So reads an invitation to an ultra-exclusive masquerade at Snctm, “where your pleasure is our priority.”

Originally formed in Los Angeles, Snctm has expanded its permanent presence to New York City, Miami, Moscow, Kiev and select events around the world.

While a libertine can find plenty of ways to spend a Saturday night in New York City, from cruising bars to attending Burner parties in Brooklyn, if you want an experience that actually resembles Eyes Wide Shut, try to snag a pass to one of Snctm’s infamous masquerades. I wore a snake-print gown; my date wore black tie and looked like a snack.

Upon entering the downtown Manhattan penthouse (a secret location), we step into a modern penthouse of mask statues and gorgeous performers showing off the sexiest burlesque (and then some) while well-dressed and attractive attendees mix and mingle.

We start a conversation with a hot couple from out of town (it seems many people fly to New York to attend). We meet a self-proclaimed “unicorn” in the bathroom line.

We explore the many rooms filled with erotic art, epic beds, and an array of kink toys in addition to lube and condoms. Now, I won’t kiss and tell. It’s not even my rule; what happens at sex parties stays at sex parties. But, I did get to interview my date about his experience at the one percent of sex parties. Here’s what he had to say.

First off, will you tell everyone about your previous sex party experience?

I went to a smaller one ages ago but didn’t end up participating. That was in a rented-out restaurant, after hours, actually; no idea about the health codes there. And dating you, of course, now I’m always joining just when you’re on assignment. So I guess until Snctm, most of what we’ve done has been way more Brooklyn.

What does that mean?

You know, burner types, lots of costumes, very queer. You can tell that Snctm is catering to another crowd, one with more money, to be honest. I was kind of tickled to see that many men in attendance were wearing masks, and can’t imagine the scandal if those masks came off. Who is behind them?

Whereas, other ones we’ve gone to, people talk about attending sex parties like it’s grabbing a cup of coffee, and I imagine that the price of entry is much lower, so the artist types can attend.

Did you like attending something bougier?

It was definitely fun to go to a sex party that looks like the one-percent secret sex dens you read and hear about. I liked the black tie; that made a big difference and leveled up the experience. I appreciated how many couples were there, it seems like an ideal party for swingers with cash.

Frankly, I wish I could interview a single man in attendance to see what that experience is like because I had you, so I didn’t have to worry about meeting people or picking anyone up.

What was your least favorite part?

Not to “yuck anyone’s yum,” as people say, but there was a lot of watching. It seemed like only some people who came had sex, and the others in attendance gathered around and watched.

Sometimes that’s hot — you were going down on me, and some girl started a conversation with me without even realizing what was going on down below. That turned me on.

But at other times, I felt pressure by how many people were watching, and it’s harder to relax and perform sexually when you feel pressure.

What was your favorite part?

I mean, stepping into a Manhattan penthouse, checking your phone, wearing black tie, and entering a decadent den of sin is pretty spectacular.

I was nervous to talk to other people, but it was surprisingly easy to start up a conversation with others. It seemed like a lot of couples there were genuinely in love, and I’m glad that there’s a place like Snctm for them to play at. I also noticed people who showed up solo getting laid, so I guess some people are doing more than watching.

Again, I have you, but from a man’s perspective, the biggest, scariest question about attending a sex party is “will I get laid or embarrass myself?” so I’m glad people did get laid.

It makes me proud to live in New York knowing that people fly out here for it. Smaller and more low-key sex parties could be fun, too, but there’s something about attending an exclusive black-tie party like this one that just adds an extra edge of eroticism.

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Source: AskMen