How to Massage the Prostate

Everything You’ve Always Wanted to Know About Prostate Play But Were Too Afraid to Ask

One pretty strong indicator that our once-narrow conception of masculinity has come a long way in a short period of time? Men everywhere are a lot more comfortable with anal play, and not only in the giving role but also in the receiving one. And what better proof than the massive growth in popularity of prostate massages?

Having a restricted, repressed sexuality is a bit like having a narrow palette. Sure, you can survive on the most mundane of diets, but once you’ve tasted some of the world’s best cuisines, you’ll never want to go back to purely bland food ever again. Well, we’re here to tell you, in the spirit of sexual adventure, that the prostate for most men is an unexplored realm of pure pleasure, whether you work prostate massage into your masturbation rituals or incorporate it into your sex life with your partner.

All that having been said, though, there are a few things you should know about prostate massages before you experiment, from safety and hygiene basics to the toys that take P-spot stimulation to the next level.

Everything You Need to Know About Prostate Massage

Nervous? Confused? Don’t know where to start? Never fear. We’ve broken down the important info to help you get started safely and with maximum enjoyment.

What & Where Is the Prostate?

The prostate is a small, walnut-shaped gland located inside the male rectum. Its bodily role is to produce seminal fluid, which is later combined with sperm to create semen, but it also happens to be surrounded by a ton of nerve endings, which makes it highly sensitive to manual manipulation.

You can choose to directly stimulate the prostate, by inserting a finger, toy or penis into the rectum, or you can get at it indirectly, by massaging the perineum (the area of skin between the anus and scrotum). If you’re a bit apprehensive about the idea of insertion but still want to explore the possibilities of prostate pleasure, a perineum massage is a great place to start.

What Safety Precautions Should I Take Beforehand?

Any time you’re involving the genitals, and perhaps specifically the anus, it’s a good idea to take some basic safety precautions. Germs and bacteria are a real thing, so before you engage in prostate play, it’s probably a good idea to shower and thoroughly clean your anus using soap and water. A douche or enema isn’t strictly necessary but never a bad idea.

The next important safety consideration is toward the anus itself. The skin of the rectum is thin and delicate, and very prone to tearing or scratching if you aren’t careful. If you plan on using your fingers to do the massage, carefully trim your fingernails beforehand, or consider wearing a rubber glove. Do not insert a finger with a ring on it into the rectum, for obvious reasons. If you plan on using a toy, select something smooth and made for the purpose, and ensure it is clean before insertion. Also, in the interests of keeping your place clean and out of an abundance of precaution, it’s a good idea to lay a towel down before you begin.

How Do I Massage the Prostate?

The key to successful prostate massage, especially for beginners, is to start small. Using lubricant and gentle pressure, enter the rectum with either your finger or a clean toy. Your prostate should be no deeper than two to four inches inside your rectum, towards the front wall of your pelvis. The motion you’re aiming for, once you’re inside, is a finger curl, and you’ll know you’re in the right spot when, one, you feel a protrusion about the size of the walnut and, two, there’s an intense feeling of pleasure when you apply even a gentle pressure to the area.

At this point, you should do some experimenting. Vary the pressure and the motion of your fingers; apply direct and indirect touch. This is a learning experience, and not everyone responds to the same kinds of stimulation, so find what works for you.

What Is Prostate Milking?

If you’ve heard anything about prostate stimulation in the wild, you’ve probably come across the phrase “prostate milking.” Well, remember the biological role of the prostate: it produces seminal fluid. If you stimulate it the right way, for the right amount of time, you can actually cause it to release this fluid — hence “milking.”

Milking the prostate is actually a centuries-old medical practice, first used to treat prostate inflammation (also known as prostatitis), but it’s become more popular of late for the pleasure it can cause. There’s even some anecdotal evidence that regular prostate milking can help alleviate the symptoms of erectile dysfunction, but the scientific consensus isn’t out on this yet.

Our Favorite Prostate Massagers

Adam & Eve 3 Point Prostate Massager

Relatively inexpensive, extremely well made, and beginner-friendly, the Adam & Eve 3 Point Prostate Massager was designed with ergonomics in mind, its every curve and protrusion aimed at producing maximum pleasure. The center shaft is 5.25 inches long, which is enough length to stimulate most men’s prostate glands without being overly large, and the included “tickler” stimulates the perineum simultaneously. Finally, the dual-motor design delivers prostate-pleasing vibrations in 10 possible speed settings.

$69.99 at AdamEve.com

njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

No motor, no Bluetooth connection, no thrills and frills. So what, exactly, are you paying for with the njoy Pure Wand? Simple: incredible build quality and a best-in-class design. Not only does this function as a back massager (and not in the wink wink, plausible deniability way, either!), its curved design and double-ended balls of different sizes make this an unbelievably pleasurable way to stimulate your prostate. It’s made from high-grade, solid stainless steel as well, which is not only extremely hygienic but also temperature responsive for added pleasure.

$149.99 at Lovehoney.com

Lelo Hugo 2

Lelo is among today’s most celebrated and award-winning sex toy manufacturers, elevating the industry with their sleek, stylish designs and premium materials, and the Hugo 2, successor to one of the most popular and well-reviewed prostate massagers ever made, more than delivers on the brand’s promises. It’s both easy to clean and easy to recharge, with two powerful motors delivering up to 8 pre-programmed vibration settings, and a second, smaller prong aimed at pleasuring your perineum while the main bulb targets your P-spot.

$219.99 at Lovehoney.com

ANEROS Helix Trident

We love the simplicity and high functionality of the ANEROS Helix Trident, as well as its compact and easy-to-store design. The head angle has been optimized to reach the prostate, while the rigid construction offers maximal stimulation of up to four erogenous zones simultaneously. Because this toy is on the smaller end, though, it’s more appropriate for beginners to prostate play, while veterans may prefer a larger alternative.

$55 at ANEROS.com

LOVENSE Edge 2 Prostate Massager

Prostate play doesn’t have to be a solo affair, and the LOVENSE Edge 2 is proof. As a standalone toy, its food-grade silicone construction and IPX7 water resistance make it both safe and comfortable, and its dual-motor design delivers awesome stimulation, but it’s when you connect it to a smartphone that this device really shines. Via the smartphone app remote control, which can be operated anywhere there’s an internet connection, you can unlock more than 10,000 vibration patterns, not to mention some amazingly fun couples games to help you feel close even when you’re physically apart.

$129 at Amazon.com

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