How Do Porn Stars Last So Long?

Revealed: The Secret, Stamina-Enhancing Tricks of Male Porn Stars

Revealed: The Secret, Stamina-Enhancing Tricks of Male Porn Stars

We’ve already discussed at great length why porn is not a good or appropriate source of information for real-life sex, but if you spend enough time covering the conversation, you learn something kind of funny: most men realize that the average penis they’re seeing in porn is considerably longer and thicker than the average male penis, so they’re somewhat able to insulate their self-esteem from comparison, but they actually don’t realize one of the most unrealistic aspects of porn: how long the on-camera sex lasts!

The average porn scene is upwards of 20 minutes long, but study after study on heterosexual sex finds penetrative sex typically lasts a fraction of that time. The Society for Sex Therapy and Research, for example, polled their members on sex duration, and the most common response range was between three and seven minutes. Another, multinational survey conducted by the Journal of Sex Medicine found a median duration of just 5.4 minutes.

And while it’s important to point out that porn isn’t exactly an honest representation of real-life sex, it’s also worth noting a serious problem: heterosexual sex typically lasts under ten minutes, but heterosexual women, on average, require about 14 minutes to achieve orgasm. The math, as the young people say, isn’t mathing. 

So what explains this massive discrepancy? Are male porn stars really just sexual gods walking among us, or is there another explanation? And what can men do to last a little bit longer and hopefully do a better job satisfying their female partners? We did some research into the tricks porn stars (and directors) use to both last longer in bed and appear to last longer in bed, and while some of these are best left to the professionals, the average guy can still learn a thing or two to help improve their (and their partner’s) experience during sex.

How Porn Stars Prolong On-Camera Sex

Camera Trickery

Let’s start with this one right away, so men everywhere can breathe a small sigh of relief: much of pornography’s outrageously lengthy sex duration can be explained by clever editing techniques. In actuality, the performers take breaks throughout the sex scene, masked by clever editing or camera work. Sometimes, what you think is penetrative sex is really just two people going through the motions (“faking it,” as they say), with the camera angles disguising the lack of penetration. At other times, the performers stop penetration at key moments of excitement (often the male performer will tap his female co-star repeatedly, signaling the need for a break) to prolong the scene, leaving it to the producers to edit out these lengthy transitions and give the viewer the appearance of a seamless sex scene.

Performance Enhancers

It’s not exactly a scoop to say that male porn stars use (and often abuse) erection-enhancing drugs like Viagra and Cialis, but millions of men out in the real world also rely on little blue pills to enhance their sex lives. The real secret weapon, and one we think should only be used sparingly (if at all) by average guys, is a numbing agent.

Numbing agents work by dulling the nerves in the penis, helping you prolong the duration at the expense of the sensation. If you’re really suffering from premature ejaculation, a numbing agent can be a great aid, especially if you are eventually able to wean yourself off it, but male porn stars often abuse them, using not only creams but even more powerful injections that, if used incorrectly or too frequently, can cause scarring and other lasting damage to the penis.

The takeaway? If you think you suffer from premature ejaculation, an over-the-counter numbing cream can help you last a little longer and maybe help you build up your sexual self-confidence.

Sexual Variety

One key trick to prolonging the duration of penetrative sex is to vary your tempo. Sex shouldn’t be a race to the finish line, especially if you want the experience to be enjoyable for your partner, so remind yourself to take your time. If your excitement is building up in one particular position or with one particular pace, switch things up and slow things down.

This is actually one thing porn can teach men, as the average sex scene does tend to feature a lot of variety in terms of position. If you feel like you have more control over your orgasm in missionary than with your partner on top of you, begin with missionary and save the more exciting position for last. Or, if you really want to prolong the pleasure, don’t just vary the sex position; vary the sex act. There’s no law of sex that says that oral sex can only ever be foreplay; in fact, when you need to tamp down your excitement and give yourself a break from penetrative sex, going down on your woman is a great way to keep her excitement high while buying yourself more time.

Experience Builds Self-Confidence

This isn’t really a trick, or even very surprising, but it’s still a truth about how male porn stars perform so well that you can actually incorporate into your own sex life. Practice really does make perfect, in sex as in all things, and male porn stars get a lot of practice. If you’re a regular Joe, and perhaps especially if you’re not in a relationship and only having sex sporadically, it’s only natural that you’d be incredibly, incredibly excited.

Instead of judging yourself too harshly from a very small sample size, treat sex as a learning experience, something that you (and your partner) can get better at over time, especially as you learn more about each other’s wants and needs. The big mistake not to make is to think your orgasm has to put an end to the sexual fun. If you do orgasm early, that doesn’t give you a free pass to ignore your partner’s pleasure. Instead, show your gratitude by recommitting your attention to pleasuring her with your hands and mouth.

Men tend to overestimate the importance of their penises (shocking!) and underestimate how much pleasure they can give by other means, and once you learn that you don’t have to rely on a single tool to get the job done, you’ll stop putting so much pressure on yourself to perform. Ditching the unrealistic expectations will make you a better lover and help you build the kind of sexual self-confidence that women find genuinely attractive. It just takes practice.

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