Shower Sex

Here’s Everything You Need To Know About Getting It On In The Shower

Great sex, without the mess – shower sex done right.

Similar to hot tub and beach sex, steaming it up in the shower seems hotter than any romp in the sheets. But the reality of shower sex is… not always so sexy.

Between trying to get the right position, and keeping her lubed up thanks to the water constantly washing it away, you may think that the fantasy is better left in your dreams. Until now. Shower sex really can be sexy. In fact, it can be amazing, says dating expert Laurel House.

Be Prepared

Let’s face it, sex in the shower is slippery, dangerous, and one of you always gets a cold butt. The beauty of shower sex is the sensual delights available, hot water streaming down, soaping your lover’s body everywhere, washing each other’s hair. Rebekah Beneteau, a sex and intimacy coach, suggests you make the most out of the foreplay, and then when you’re totally hot and ready, get out, wrap her in a big fluffy towel, and perch her on the sink for some pre-game buildup. Post shower is a great time for anal play too.

The Right Tools

The biggest problems with shower sex for most is clearly space vs. safety, says Chris Darrell, co-founder and chief creative officer of The Fantasy Box. Most of us are looking at the standard 32/46-inch, stand-up shower, or 60-inch porcelain tub, which, unless you are 4’8″, is kind of like trying to do gymnastics in an SUV. Because we both know there’s nothing sexy about being crammed into a small space, up on your toes, slipping and sliding around, banging your elbows and knees, 10 seconds away from a 911 call. To have sex in the shower, it is always best to have a non-slip mat down so that you don’t fall. Plus there are some nice cushioning ones, which can be great when she is on her knees giving you oral, says Mindi Mink, an adult contract performer with Girlfriends Films.

Mink advises to get a little stool with a soft cushion seat if your shower does not already have a built-in seat. You always want your lady relaxed and comfortable so she can climax to the fullest. Once you know the technique of using your tongue on her because she is moaning and saying words to let you know how good it feels, don’t stop that rhythm to try something else. Consistency is the key.

Find Your Sweet Spot

The shower, by definition, equals clean, so if she generally strays away from certain things that you always wanted to do that they feel may be… for instance an adjective of “sticky” — there is no better place than the shower, says Darrell. It really opens a lot of doors and allows you to experiment. And for those who really want to experiment, the drain forgets all. Positioning is key for pleasure and to prevent slipping in the shower — rear entry, and face-to-face with her leg wrapped around you or up on the wall, or side of the tub if you’re in a bath. Consider holding onto the shower walls during thrusting to avoid slipping, advises New York gynecologist Alyssa Dweck, MD, author of V Is For Vagina. Unfortunately, water doesn’t reduce friction or dryness, so a silicone lubricant like Wet Platinum will keep things slippery everywhere. It turns out water-based lubes just get washed away. “A wet T-shirt in the shower is a common erotic fantasy… try it… you might like it,” says Dweck.

All showers are designed differently, so the best position varies, but Chanel Preston, an adult contract performer and host of NakedWithChanel, says that, generally, doggy is the easiest option. It’s easy to bend over and lean against the shower door or wall and even prop your leg up on a shower stool or the tub. Standing missionary is another good option where you can also prop your leg up on something to maintain stability. If you have a standard showerhead, you may want to consider replacing it with a hand unit — one that has a hose and can detach. It’s really cheap and easy to replace, and it allows you to get her wet everywhere! I think the feeling of being soaked in water while having sex is very erotic, so shower sex is definitely a must, but make sure you’re safe, and have fun!