Pro Tips for Making Her Orgasm

5 Tips for Bringing Woman to Climax That Too Many Guys Don’t Know About

Contrary to popular belief, making a woman orgasm really has nothing to do with how big your penis is.

And frankly, more times than not, bringing a woman to orgasm requires other things than just having traditional penis-in-vagina penetrative sex.

However, it does have everything to do with being able to openly communicate with one another, accept feedback, and be willing to try new things and stick with it to help her get there.

To help close the orgasm gap, we’ve asked some real women to weigh in on the best tips, techniques and advice for making women orgasm.

From the right atmosphere to open communication and thinking outside the box, here are the best pro tips women had to offer on how to get them to the big O.

Why It Might Be Tricky to Make Her Orgasm

Part of making a person with a vagina orgasm starts with readjusting your expectations on what will get her there.

Plenty of movies (and porn) have been depicting the female orgasm as something that happens just from penetrative sex alone — often at the same time as her male partner orgasms, which is just not the case.

The truth is, most women don’t orgasm from P in the V intercourse as frequently as men do. According to a recent survey by Statista, 95% of men surveyed reported that they almost always orgasm during sex, as opposed to just 25% of women.

One key reason for this has to do with anatomy. Heterosexual, penetrative sex doesn’t provide enough direct clitoral stimulation to bring women to orgasm.

There are also a slew of other factors that can keep a woman from reaching orgasm that don’t have anything to do with her sexual partner. Past trauma, shame from religious or cultural beliefs, or even the level of commitment of your relationship are all things that can influence a woman’s ability to reach climax.

The Best Pro Tips for Making Her Orgasm

1. Communicate With Your Partner

The ability to communicate your needs in a relationship (and vice versa) is the biggest influence on whether a sexual experience will be satisfying. This can be a challenging conversation on both ends, but also the most impactful for getting your partner off.

“For a long time, I felt like something was wrong with me because I couldn’t get off during sex no matter what position I was in, but I had no problem getting off on my own,” says Clare, 23.

Everything changed once Clare’s partner asked her about her solo sessions and how she normally gets off.

“Knowing he was willing to ask about it and try something different, even if it meant adding an extra step and work on his part, meant a lot to me,” she says.

If you’re not sure whether or not your partner is getting off when you have sex, don’t be afraid to ask her about it. Pick a time that isn’t right before or after having sex to have this conversation, to keep the pressure off.

2. Extend Foreplay

The more foreplay, the better the chance of bringing her to orgasm for a few reasons. First, foreplay makes the clitoris swell, which makes it more sensitive.

“Having sex without foreplay is like trying to grill steak on a cold pan,” says Bri, 26. “It takes longer for me to get turned on, and I feel like my orgasm is never as good without it.”

Focus on erogenous zones beyond the clitoris to get things warmed up. The nipples, neck, inner thigh and even ears are pleasure zones waiting to be tapped.

3. Get Her Comfortable

One study out of the University of Groningen found that women were significantly more able to achieve orgasm when their feet were warm.

Having sex with socks on might seem weird, but Emily, 28, said she can’t go back after trying it.

“I read an article about this study and tried these socks. I’m not sure if it was the placebo effect or what, but I swear I have more orgasms than I did before wearing them.”

While the original claim does not appear to be founded in serious science, the underlying idea — that physical discomfort will negatively impact her ability to orgasm — is a sound one.

Instead of focusing on the temperature of her feet specifically, ask her if there’s anything about your sex that could be made more comfortable — whether it’s the mattress or pillows, the air temperature, or even whether she’s wearing socks or not.

4. Take the Pressure Off

Unfortunately for women, one major killer of orgasms is the pressure to have one for the sake of your partner.

“If I know that the person I’m having sex with really wants to get me off, it becomes this mental block, and I can’t get there,” says Aimee, 32.

How do you address this? Be willing to take a break and try something else, or not have the orgasm be the main goal, but a nice-to-have as an added bonus during sex.

Paradoxically, letting her know you won’t be offended if she doesn’t climax may help her get there.

5. Increase Clitoral Stimulation

One way to increase the chance of giving a woman an orgasm during sex is to stimulate the clitoris separately from P in the V sex.

But if both you and your partner want to climax during penetration, there are certain positions and even sex toys that can help make that a reality.

“I can get off if I’m on top during sex or if my boyfriend positions himself higher during missionary to make more contact with my clit,” says Sarah, 29.

If you and your partner are comfortable with it, adding a vibrating cock ring like this one from Screaming-O is a simple addition that can go a long way for clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex.

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Source: AskMen