Never Have I Ever: Engaged in Sploshing
Some People Find Getting Seriously Nasty With Food Seriously Hot. Here’s What It’s Like
Some People Find Getting Seriously Nasty With Food Seriously Hot. Here’s What It’s Like
Have you ever played “Never Have I Ever” before? Here are the rules: Everyone puts up ten fingers, and you go around in a circle and one by one share something sexy or scandalous that you’ve never done before. When someone else shares something you have done, you have to put one finger down — and of course, drink. The first person to put all 10 fingers down loses (or wins, depending on how you look at it).
Well, AskMen is still playing Never Have I Ever, and the rules are simple: In each edition of this column, we speak to someone about doing something new in bed, whether it’s a long-time fantasy, something that just happened, or even something they regret. They tell us everything so you get an inside look at what some sexual experiences are actually like.
Kink is kinky because it’s taboo — you’re doing things you’re not supposed to be doing, often, with things you’re not supposed to play with.
Like food. As the name suggests, food play means getting kinky with food. It’s part of “sploshing,” aka wet and messy play. Think covering one’s self in pudding, whipped cream, or anything else edible that gets one wet and messy in more ways than one.
To better understand food play, we spoke to Katarina “The Domme Kat” Pierce, Honorific Domina, a pro domme, fetish wrestler, kink educator, event producer, experience creator, who is also co-founder of SW Survival Guide.
She lives in Brooklyn with her 18-year-old cat, and loves food science and cooking. We spoke to her about her first-time experience with food play, which took place at a “Danksgiving,” and how that led food play to become a regular part of her profession.
AskMen: What is your experience with cake sitting/food play?
The Domme Kat: I love getting wet and messy! Being slippery and slick feels so sensual to me, and food play is so closely connected to that. It’s taboo. You aren’t supposed to play with your food. You aren’t supposed to be covered in cake. Flipping and challenging societal norms is one of my favorite aspects of kink. I enjoy the sensuality of it also because I like sensation play and temperature play. And who can resist cake on cake?
When was the first time you tried it?
I started slowly… whipped cream on nipples is the sploshing gateway drug. Then I moved on to other things, like pudding or sauces. I was by myself just exploring the temperature of the foods, the feel, how quickly they dry and what they look like on my skin. But for me, it’s less about the look and more about the feel. The pictures never fully capture how glorious that slickness can feel.
What led you to try it?
The first time I did it in public was for a performance. The event producer covered the cost of the food and I requested that he double the budget so we could donate the same amount of food to a shelter or food bank. I struggle with the aspect of “wasting” food for pleasure or entertainment when so many people in the world are hungry.
Was it for fun or part of sex work?
Sex work, baby! I’ll admit, I don’t have much fun outside of work because I work so much. That said, I love my work and my job affords me the opportunity to have lots of fun, so I don’t feel deprived at all.
I’m also someone who feels most comfortable when I’m doing something — when I have a task — so being out at work is socializing for me, whether it’s a private session, working a party or performing. Even filming!
When I’m on camera, I’m not performing for a camera lens; I’m performing for the people that are going to watch. I know they’re there and when I’m looking at the camera, I’m really looking at them!
When and where was this?
This was a few years ago. I was the entertainment at a “Danksgiving” dinner (a cannabis-infused Thanksgiving). While I don’t celebrate Thanksgiving because it is rooted in genocide, I was down to spend time with friends and others.
And I’m an exhibitionist, so I relish the chance to get lost in that moment. Cannabis also increases blood flow and sensitivity, so it’s especially fun to mix those two elements.
Did you like it? How did the experience match your expectations?
I liked it a lot more than I even thought I would! I started with icing and slowly teased the viewers with dots, drips, splashes and smears of it. I started getting into the feeling of my own hands on my body, running my hands along my curves and knowing I was doing something a little bit shocking and taboo.
A lot of the food was “Thanksgiving dinner” themed and I will say, creamed corn is not a sexy food, unless you’re into vomit, because that’s what it looks like under mood lighting.
I’m also very sensory driven and enjoy a tasty bite of dopamine. I’ve recently discovered I love being fed by a lover, too. There are so many ways to play with food! Food can indicate a level of caretaking, love and satisfaction, which adds an extra layer to the play.
What safety precautions should one know when mixing food and body?
Avoid your genitals! Anything that upsets the pH of your body should be avoided, so you want to be careful around holes, especially with high-sugar foods. You also want to be careful with food-borne illnesses. You wouldn’t, for example, want to use raw chicken. Yes, Lady Gaga wore a meat dress, but you don’t want to risk salmonella or e. coli just for some sexy time.
You also want to watch things that burn, like alcohol, spices or citrus. Crunchy foods might scratch the skin or other delicate bits. Think about which foods are sharp or have sharp flavors and avoid them. And you always need to check for allergies!
And be aware that some foods stain, which means your skin and your clothing. Put a tarp, dollar-store plastic shower curtain or something else down first to make cleanup a bit easier.
Speaking of clean up, keep towels and other cleaning supplies nearby. Warm water and washcloths can also be a sweet and sensual way to clean each other up before stepping off the plastic and making your way to the shower.
Do you do it solo or with a partner (after/outside of Danksgiving)?
Both! I’ve used whipped cream, honey, chocolate sauce on lovers. Nipples, lips, ears, stomach/chest are all great areas. I love kissing, licking and nibbling parts of us that don’t get much day-to-day exposure, like the inside of your elbow or back of your knees (what I call the elbow and knee armpits), your inner thighs, the back of your neck.
I bought THC-infused chocolate-hazelnut spread (Nutella) and dipped my toes for a foot fetishist lover to suck off. I love having my feet worshiped. I mean, how fucking sexy is it for someone to say, “You’re so delicious, I want to put you in my mouth” with their actions? Power dynamics are my first love, so instructing them to clean it all off with their tongue before being allowed to move to another part of the foot is so hot.
What advice would you give someone who wants to try it?
Start paying attention to the way all foods feel when you consume them. Tune into the sensations. Does the food melt on your tongue? Does it have an interesting texture? Notice how the food makes you feel in the rest of your body. Does it light up that pleasure center in your brain? Does it bring back a memory?
Wash your hands well and then use your hands as much as possible in the preparation of the meals you serve yourself. Is the food hot or cold? How does that temperature change when you touch it? Does the food change states, like a solid to a liquid?
Add other aspects of sensory play, like sensory deprivation with a blindfold. Make it into a game by “hiding” different foods, like honey on the small of your back or a strawberry in your armpit and let your partner hunt for it like a sexy little truffle pig, licking and biting.
It’s a fun way to start a scene or some sexy time. Cover each other like a delicious dessert, eat that yummy dessert and then take a hot shower together as foreplay. I doubt you’ll make it all the way back to the bed before devouring each other in other ways!
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Source: AskMen
