How To Have Cybersex
Here’s the Proper Way to Have Great Cybersex
Here’s the Proper Way to Have Great Cybersex
When you hear the term “cybersex,” you probably imagine some loser in his mom’s basement perusing the web for some fake person to have fun with. But as technology has evolved over the past few decades, so have the online platforms that cater to facilitating virtual hookups.
Gone are the days of fuzzy videos, poor connections and lost live streams. Today, there are many ways to partake in a steamy online exchange with a total stranger, whether that’s in real time with the highest grade HD, or through a graphic textual fantasy. There are even toys that sync to your sexual experience to make cybersex more gratifying than ever before.
With so many hookup sites available, it can be hard to know where to start. Not to mention, finding a partner in the virtual world isn’t exactly straightforward, especially if there’s a particular fetish you’re looking to explore. As with anything you get yourself into on the internet, be sure to never compromise your safety or privacy while you’re engaging in all this virtual fun.
Sure, you’re safe from STDs during cybersex, but there are still plenty of other viruses you could contract if you’re not careful.
To cut through the complicated parts of cybersex, we’ve compiled a handy guide to take you through the dos and don’ts, the best sites to try, and even a few toys that can help take things to the next level.
The Benefits of Having Cybersex
For starters, it’s fun. Unlike porn, cybersex adds a level of intimacy and interaction that you can’t get from watching two strangers go at it.
If you’ve ever held back from trying a fetish or sexual act because you weren’t sure if you’d like it yourself (or how a partner might react), testing it out on a cybersex partner via chat or livestream offers a safe space to dip your toe in the water. It can also end up boosting your confidence level once you do try and introduce it into the bedroom.
Cybersex via chat also allows for the perfect sexual scenario using just your imagination. Porn limits you to the fantasies that producers have decided will get their audience off. Even if you’re able to search by traits of your ideal woman or type of sex or fetish, your jerk-off session is tied to whatever plays out on the screen. That’s not the case when having cybersex with a stranger. You’re able to imagine her as she is, doing what you want to her, with the words you’re saying. Pretty hot, right?
Plus, there are plenty of different ways to go about having cybersex. If you’re not one for words, so many sites offer live streaming capabilities. if you want want to limit yourself to just one cybersex partner, try chat forums based around fantasies to take the pressure off communicating with one person at a time.
Cybersex Dos and Don’ts
Never give out personal details
Even innocent details like the name of your street or personal details like your mother’s maiden name can be a gateway for members to do damage to your identity, so make sure the information you’re giving out isn’t personal. “You never know who’s on the other side of that phone or camera, even if you think you do,” says health expert Caleb Backe. “It seems like a no-brainer, but safety comes first whether in cybersex or actual sex.”
Create a separate email address
If your email has your first and last name in it or other identifying details, make a new account before signing up for a cybersex site.
“Create a separate email specifically for cybersexing and other fun digital endeavors,” recommends Backe. “I know, another email account or social media account can be a pain in the neck but trust me: you probably don’t want to consider the alternative scenarios that could end up manifesting themselves all too easily.”
Always establish consent
Even though you’re interacting virtually, it’s still important to establish and respect boundaries. “When your cybersex involves other actual people (in a virtual space), communication and consent are still important,” says sexpert Kayla Lords. “Both parties need to know what’s going on and be okay with where things are going. If one person wants to stop, you stop. When someone has a hard limit or boundary they don’t want crossed, their partner should respect that. What makes sex good (and legal) doesn’t end simply because it’s taking place in a virtual world.”
Don’t jump into things too quickly
Once you do connect with someone, don’t just start rapid fire sexting them.
“Feel out your potential partner, and know your audience,” adds Lords. “Don’t be too vulgar or too sexual too fast. Just because your partner is there for some digital fun too doesn’t mean you can treat them however you want. More often than not, there is a living, breathing person on the other side of that webcam. Remember the human.”
Use sounds to your advantage
If you’re connecting via video, getting things started with more sensual sounds will benefit your cyber experience.
“Whispering and soft-talking are erotic in many situations, but there is an even better quality to it during cybersex,” notes Backe. “If you are the ‘upper torso and lower’ type, who is not into showing his face, whispering (and whispering fiercely) really amps things up.”
Be very specific
“The more specific, the better, usually,” says Backe. “Avoid the generic statements. Telling or texting your partner what it is precisely that you would do to them if they were there — it can be a huge turn-on. It’s likely to receive a reaction or comeback just as steamy.”
Best Toys to Take Your Cybersex Up a Notch
Whether you want to free up your hands to type out your fantasies or take your livecam action up a notch, here are a few toys worth considering for your next cybersex session.
Adam’s Turbo Dual Stroker
If you mount this masturbation toy to your wall or desk, you’re free to thrust away as your digital fantasy unfolds. Whether you’re talking dirty about oral or getting to the main event, there’s a side of this stroker designed to stimulate both acts. This particular toy is extra deep to allow you the freedom to thrust deeper. Want more suction? Keep the cap on at the end for an even tighter fit. Plus, clean up is easy thanks to the removable fleshy insert. Rinse, dry and repeat.
$39.95 at AdamEve.com
Vstroker
The Vstroker is a fleshlight that syncs to your VR porn experience. What a time to be alive, am I right? The toy measures your strokes and thrusts, displaying them on the VR screen in front of you when you’re using a compatible site (like 3dxchat.com).
Starting at $49.95 at Fleshlight.com
Pulse III Solo
This vibrator for men relies on oscillating technology to deliver sensations that work your member toward a more powerful orgasm without you having to do any of the work. Choose from five different vibration settings, each designed to stimulate the most sensitive parts of your penis at varying levels of intensity. It’s rechargeable via a convenient USB plug, and the toy lasts for up to an hour of play. If you feel claustrophobic about sticking your penis into a vibrating toy, the Pulse III Solo’s open-ended design will make you just as happy.
$119.95 at AdamEve.com
Lovense Max
If you’ve found yourself a steady cybersex partner, it’s probably worthwhile to invest in a toy that keeps the two of you even more connected. Give your partner control over your pleasure with this Bluetooth-capable toy. It has rumbly vibrations and inner workings that stimulate the best oral sex you’ve ever had.
$99.00 at Lovense.com
Commander USB Rechargeable Electric Pump
Found your cyber partner and need to get hard, quick? Look no further than this electric pump from Adam & Eve. Featuring soft sleeves in a variety of sizes to help you find the right fit, it’s a quick and easy way to get ready for your next cyber session. Pump yourself up, or play with suction and release patterns for a variety of sensations. Not to mention, the see-through pump means your cyber partner can watch all of the fun happen too (if she’s into it).
$74.95 at AdamEve.com
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