How to Make Your Partner Squirt During Sex
Want to Make Her Gush During Penetrative Sex? Here’s What It Takes
Want to Make Her Gush During Penetrative Sex? Here’s What It Takes
Whether you got the idea from porn or from word of mouth, or whether you and your partner have just decided it’s a worthy goal, squirting from penetrative sex is neither common nor easy to achieve. In other words, unless you set out with it as a goal in mind, and follow a specific series of steps, you’re unlikely ever to experience it.
Does that mean you’re a bad lover, or that your partner is somehow inadequate? Absolutely not. It’s entirely possible to orgasm without ejaculating, and there’s nothing about squirting that is essential to a good sex life.
On the other hand, it can be a lot of fun, and it’s definitely a wild, wet ride, if you’ll pardon the bad pun.
Sold on the idea of making your partner squirt during sex? Read on to learn what you need to do.
Tips for Making Your Partner Squirt During Sex
Before we begin, it’s important to ensure that you communicate this desire to your partner. First, for consent reasons: you don’t want to treat them like a means to an end, and second, for practical reasons: if your partner isn’t on board, your chances of pulling this off drop to nearly zero.
#1 – Prepare Yourself (and the Room)
Do we really have to point out that your personal hygiene is important when it comes to sex? At a minimum, you should have showered and/or washed your hands. It’s just common sexual courtesy, people!
But since we’re aiming at squirting, there’s a tad bit more prep work involved. Because the end goal here literally involves a wet mess, you’re going to want to ensure you put down a towel or two, and remove any non-washable sheets/comforters from your bed. (Incidentally, though the following tips will work in any location, we strongly recommend you avoid trying this in an area with upholstered furniture, for obvious reasons!)
#2 – Make It About the Journey, Not the Destination
There’s nothing less sexy or more likely to kill the vibe than pressure and expectations. It’s absolutely fine to vocalize the goal of making your partner squirt, but you also have to make sure they’re happy and comfortable and enjoying themselves at every step along the way.
It’s also worth noting here that not every human body is the same, which means that not everyone is capable of squirting. If it doesn’t happen, though, you’ll be left with a wild sexual session filled with passion and experimentation, and that should be more than enough to put a smile on both your faces.
#3 – Ramp Up the Foreplay
Too many guys focus on the penetration and neglect foreplay, and that’s not just true of the specific instance of attempting to make a partner squirt. Foreplay isn’t optional; it’s essential. If you want to finish strong, you have to start strong, and in the context of heterosexual sex, that means taking your time to ensure her arousal.
Use your fingers and your mouth to stimulate her vagina, teasing her, arousing her, and heightening her anticipation. Some women do fine without lubricants, but other women really benefit from applying a dedicated lubricant, so decide if that’s something you might need and make it happen.
The longer you draw this process out, the more you take your time and don’t rush the experience, the closer she will get to the tipping point.
#4 – Communicate With Your Partner
Making a partner squirt is difficult enough as it is without the added difficulty of zero communication. The greater trust and intimacy you share with your partner, the easier the process will be, because they will be able to tell you when to slow down or speed up, when you need to stop and try a different approach or when it’s time to put all your vigor into thrusting.
Don’t make this one an incidental. Just as you took the time to put out a towel, you should also take the time to open a channel of communication. It doesn’t need to be stiff or awkward; just let your partner know you’re in it together and you want their feedback throughout.
#5 – Stimulate the Clitoris During Penetration
Remember how we said all our bodies are different? Well, with women in particular, clitoral stimulation is usually a complete prerequisite to orgasm. In fact, more women orgasm through clitoral stimulation than penetration.
This doesn’t mean that your thrusting speed or power doesn’t matter. It just means that you should try for the maximum of stimulation possible, which means not neglecting her most sensitive area where the most nerve endings are located. You can use a hand or, if you really want to take things to the next level …
#6 – Incorporate a Sex Toy
Add a sex toy into the mix. Specifically, a vibrator.
Remember how we said we’re aiming for overstimulation? Well, there’s only so much you can do with a penis and your fingers, and if that fails, there’s absolutely no shame in bringing in some artificial help.
Vibrators do an amazing job stimulating the nerve endings in the clitoris, and because most vibrators have a bevy of settings, it’s easy to start slow and build to a crescendo. You can try to hold the vibrator yourself if you like, but that requires a surprising amount of strength and flexibility, so we recommend letting your partner hold the toy while you focus on the penetration. With a little teamwork and communication, and maybe some practice, you can bring on the waterworks in no time.
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Source: AskMen
