Cougars. Toyboys . It’s hard to say either word without sniggering a little, right? Well, it turns out that the joke’s on you if you haven’t given dating across the years a try.
A survey by website Toyboy Warehouse has found that 33% of those asked are having sex more than three times a week. The reason for this level of ? A new relationship with a more energetic, younger man!
Toyboy Warehouse was founded by toyboy dater Julia Macmillian, with the aim of breaking the taboo surrounding age-gap relationships.
Male daters on the site can only select a female match who is older than them, and women can only search younger. As a result, the average age difference between partners is 12 years.
Over a third of those surveyed described average age gaps of 15 years between themselves and their sexual partners, and 52 of the 300 daters have had relationships with someone 20 years older or younger than them.
One 31-year-old male who answered the survey described his average sexual partner as 33 years older than him.
Traditionally online dating can be tough for women over 40. It’s widely recognized that as singles get older, men are less likely to look for partners their own age. And so often older women can become the forgotten generation of online daters.
96% of those surveyed described using Toyboy Warehouse as having a positive effect on their sex lives.
Of those who have come to the site following a divorce, as staggering 70% admit they have more sex now they are single than they did in their marriage.
Over 60% of those answering the survey have sex more than once a more than once a month. A third of those surveyed have sex more than three times a week.
The majority of women cited a new relationship with a more energetic, younger man as the cause for these changes.
The impact that dating younger men has had on its female members cannot be understated. One 39-year-old woman admitted she had never had sex before joining the site. In the last year she’s had 4 different sexual partners, all of whom she met on the site.
A 48-year-old dater explained ‘I rarely had sex before’, and now has sex up to 22 times a month.
She has had 21 different sexual partners since joining the dating site, and explains that the main thing she has found in online dating is ‘body confidence’.
Confidence is a word which appears time and again in the survey. ‘I’m more confident with my body’, explains a 45-year-old, woman who has met three different men on the site.
When asked what dating on Toyboy Warehouse means to her, another 45-year-old replied ‘I meet a lot more men this way and just have more of a laugh.’
Another member describes the effect of the site as ‘I went from being a bored, isolated divorcee … to a sexually charged older woman having lots of exciting dates with interesting young men.’
Interestingly it’s not just the cougars who have found confidence in the site. Every single man who answered the questionnaire described more confidence with their sex life since they started dating older women.
One 31 year-old male dater, who was also a virgin before he joined the site, now admits to having sex over 20 times a year. ‘My confidence has definitely improved since I started using the site.’
And the site isn’t just about sex. One 40 year-old woman, who has met ten different partners on Toyboy Warehouse attributes the site with ‘helping me work out what I want in a partner.’
Daters using the site sign up for a variety of reasons, from friendship, to a fling, to looking for a long-term relationship.
Of those looking for a relationship, over 75% of members leave the site because they have found someone, and normally in less than 3 months. This year alone, over 200 members have contacted the site to personally thank the team for helping them meet their fiancé/ee.