I’ve been going to the gym for a while now and I’ve got into shape. I attended classes where I met a trainer and we just instantly clicked.
We have a real laugh together and are now very close. He’s also become my personal trainer.
I love being with him and we even go for coffee after a session sometimes.
However, he has a girlfriend. I realise my behaviour isn’t brilliant, as I have to admit that we do flirt all the time and are probably too close. But I just feel so at ease with him.
I don’t know what to do. Should I stop having training sessions with him? Because he’s in a relationship, neither he nor I could ever be anything other than friends.
However, I know if he was single that something could definitely happen between us.
Well, if you can accept that nothing romantic can happen and you trust yourself not to cross the line even if you’re tempted, then carry on.
It’s important to get on with your trainer and have a rapport. I flirt with my trainer (it’s the only thing that gets me through the session), but I don’t go for coffee with him afterwards.
If you have these feelings for your PT, keep your relationship inside the gym. Don’t go for coffee or a drink, or anything else. That’s when you could get into trouble.
If you literally can’t stop thinking about him and it’s stopping you from meeting someone else, then maybe you do need to think about changing gyms or finding another PT.
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