My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, with blips along the way.
Once when we broke up for a week, he slept with someone else. And when we separated for three months and he moved out, I saw someone from university.
Throughout all of this he painted a really bad picture of me to his family, making out that all our problems were my fault.
So his family thought he was the golden boy who could do no wrong.
Now that things are going well again between us, he’s explained to his family that every time we broke up, it was actually down to him dumping me because he wanted to sleep with other girls.
However, they still think he can do no wrong and that it must have been my fault he behaved that way.
I really resent them and I worry that in future our relationship will suffer because of my feelings towards them for being so biased.
Don’t get me wrong, I know this is ultimately my boyfriend’s fault for lying and behaving the way he did, and I’m making sure he makes it up to me.
I just don’t feel as if I can break bread with his family any more, which worries me for the future, especially if we are to end up getting married and having kids.
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It’s difficult from his family’s point of view because they’ve heard one side of the story and believed it for such a long time.
Now it has become hard for them to just suddenly switch their feelings because he wants you back.
You’re right, it is his fault really – he’s the one who’s tainted their impression of you. It was a cowardly and mean thing to do.
And I think rather than being sceptical of you, they’re probably a bit wary of getting close to you again in case the relationship doesn’t work out.
Because of your relationship history, perhaps they aren’t as confident as you and your boyfriend that it’ll last.
It’s probably not that they don’t trust you, but more that they don’t trust the relationship.
However, as long as you and your boyfriend are happy, ultimately that’s what matters.
And I think if you stick together without any more blips, his parents will be supportive because they want their son to be happy.
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