I’ve been with my boyfriend for years. I’m now coming to the point in my life when I’m not getting any younger and want to take our relationship further than just being boyfriend and girlfriend.
I asked him if he sees a future with me and he said he does, but he just doesn’t know what he’s doing tomorrow let alone further ahead.
He added that he knows how girls like to plan our whole lives out in our heads.
I’m now so confused about what to do for the best. We have a fantastic relationship, but part of me feels as if I’m in limbo.
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Well, it’s important to many women to have a plan because we have a biological clock that’s ticking. If you do want children, you simply can’t ignore that.
Don’t let him off with giving you some claptrap about women planning their lives out – tell him seriously that you’ve reached a point where you’re looking for some kind of commitment after being together for years.
And if everything is great, then why is it such a problem for him?
If it turns out that making a commitment is a huge problem, then you may have to accept that you’re not right for each other.
Lots of people (men and women) worry that making a commitment, like moving in together or getting married, will change the relationship, so why rock the boat?
If you both felt like that, fine, but you clearly want more.
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