As most couples who like to play with toys will tell you, sex toys are kind of like tattoos. They can be pretty addicting. Once you get the hang of using your first toy, you might be tempted to add a few dozen more to your goodie box in your nightstand. And while sex toys can be intimidating for first-time users, leading many couples to shy away from them altogether, most toys are far less complicated than they seem. If you’re new to the world of adult toys, here’s where to begin.
Take it slow
Don’t bring an intimidating vibrator into the bedroom. Start small and then work your way up to something bigger and bolder.
Take your time browsing through the plethora of toys out there, with the rule that nothing is off limits, as you may surprise yourselves in what arouses your curiosities. Go to sites that are really great in providing educational/expert information with their toys, like Babeland, Good Vibrations and the Sinclair Institute. If there is no online option to chat with a live salesperson, go ahead and trek to your nearest quality sex toy shop to learn and/or see more.
“It doesn’t hurt to buy a sex toy book, which can guide you with all of your options and how to use them safely while maximizing pleasure,” says Astroglide’s Sexual Health and Wellness Ambassador and Sex Expert, Dr. Yvonne Fulbright.
Your first vibe
“Vibrators are always great for beginners because they’re not only simple and easy to use, but they’re versatile and can create different sensations for different people based on what speed is used and where you put it,” says Dr. Jane Greer, marriage and family therapist. Also, they’re great for self-pleasure as well as for being pleasured by your partner. For couples interested in using toys in their sex lives: Have fun! Be open to discovery and trying new things, and be OK with the fact that your partner may not enjoy it and you might have to try something else that you both enjoy.
1. Adam and Eve’s Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator
Perfect for beginners and those that are more experienced, this vibe with adjustable speeds is waterproof and perfect for foreplay.
2. Crave Solo Vibrator
This mini and discreet vibrator is a great for beginners. Powerful, rechargeable, waterproof and it comes in an adorable black leather storage bag.
3. JimmyJane Hello Touch
This is the first finger vibrator that can be used externally or internally (with the help of a partner)! Each finger pad has its own motor, and it’s the perfect combination of human touch and technology!
4. LELO Lyla 2 Vibrator
Another way to get him involved in the experience is with a remote controlled vibrator. This egg vibrator can be used both internally and externally and is waterproof and rechargeable.
5. We-Vibe 3 Vibrator
A vibrator for couples that is used during sex is a great way to introduce a vibrator into the bedroom. The G-spot end of the vibrator goes inside the vagina (with the penis), while the other end nestles against the clitoris.
“No matter what, for a number of toys, the best and easiest use involves at least a couple of drops of lubricant for comfort,” says Fulbright. If you’ve never used lube before, be sure to add a variety pack to your shopping cart so that you can have a ball learning which type of lube is your favorite!