I have been with my partner for two years. We’ve had our problems, but we’ve always been able to work through them and move on.
But recently he got physically violent, grabbing me by the throat. I left him but came back as he was devastated about what he did and vowed never to touch a hair on my head again.
Then, I found out I was pregnant and he was over the moon, but now I’m doubting our relationship because of what happened.
His response was that he wants our relationship to work and for us to have the baby together.
However, if I leave, he’s said I either end the pregnancy or bring up the child alone.
I’m very confused.
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OK, you have to ask yourself what kind of man tries to bully his partner into staying with him by threatening her?
So, if you stay, then he’ll be a father to his child, but if you leave, then you can either get rid of the baby or go it alone without any support from him? Charming.
And then there’s the throat-grabbing incident, which left you shaken and distressed enough to leave.
He’s not the kind of person I’d want around my child. And, if you have doubts about his character now, then bringing a baby into the situation is not going to miraculously heal everything.
Having a new baby can put a strain on the strongest of relationships.
You’ve only been together two years, yet you’ve already run into many problems – what would things be like in another two years?
Relationships shouldn’t be this hard and your gut instinct is telling you to leave, so do it. No, it’s not easy being a single parent, but many people do it – I did it myself for a few years – and you will cope, especially with support from family and friends.
And it’ll still be easier than living with a man who you have serious doubts about and with the fear of violence lingering in the back of your mind.
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