My brother recently had to have a testicle removed and I’ve been really annoyed by his wife’s behaviour since. She has been making jokes about him on social media with her friends, coming up with nicknames and basically calling him half a man.
He even told her he wanted this procedure to be kept quiet before it happened. I don’t want to cause a family rift, but I don’t want her callous behaviour to carry on. She has always been brash, but this is way too much for me.
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Yes, she is completely out of line, especially as your brother asked her to be discreet from the start. If his way of handling it was to be very open and make jokes about it, then maybe it would be OK.
What she has to realise is that it’s his call. She should respect his decision to keep it quiet.
I don’t know if your brother is aware of what she’s doing but, in the first instance, you could try to appeal to her one-to-one to stop it because it’s hurtful and embarrassing.
If she won’t agree, then give her a taste of her own medicine and react to her next post on social media – would she think it was so funny if you pointed out politely that your brother had asked you to keep this private?
I wonder what her friends and followers would think then.
If that doesn’t work, then involve the rest of your family and tell your brother. I understand you don’t want to create bad feeling in the family, but someone’s privacy and wellbeing following surgery is worth risking a falling out. Hopefully, she’ll back down.
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