I met this great girl about six months ago through one of my friends. She’s amazing – sexy, fun and whenever we see each other there’s never a dull moment.
The only problem is, she says she wants an open relationship and the freedom to sleep with other people.
We’re both in our early 30s, so I just feel I’m past a point in my life where I would agree to that.
I’m looking for someone I can have a future with, plus I don’t think I could cope with the jealousy. Am I boring for not giving it a go?
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No, you’re not boring, you’re being honest and pretty sensible.
For most people it wouldn’t be an option and they’d end the relationship.
The fact that you’re considering it when deep down you realise it’s not what you want must mean you really like her.
But, trust me, excitement can wear thin if that’s all there is. What about love, friendship, trust, loyalty, all those other benefits of a good relationship?
If you’re with the right person, it’ll still feel exciting and you’ll have all that other stuff too.
I think for a relationship like this to work, both of you have to be on board 100% and if you have any doubts at all, don’t go there.
You’ll end up getting hurt, and it seems pointless when there are plenty of great women out there who can give you everything – and who will want to build a life with you.
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