I’m 17 and was single for a couple of months until I met the love of my life.
We’ve been together for almost a month but it feels more like a year when you consider how we feel about each other.
However, I recently found out that he has a seven-month-old son from his previous relationship.
He says he didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to lose me.
The mother of his child is 18 and my boyfriend is 22. Somehow, I feel they are still in touch.
I am still a virgin and also a Christian, and I haven’t told my mum about my boyfriend’s situation. I know she would be negative.
My boyfriend has begged me to stay and apologised for not telling me about his son.
I am totally confused. Can things be the same and can I still have a future with him?
Yes and yes. But you’re only 17 and you have to decide whether you want to take on that kind of relationship at your age.
His child – and therefore his ex – will always be in his life to some degree.
Of course he’s in touch with her – they have a child together and I’d think less of him if he wasn’t stepping up.
I admire him for being responsible as far as his baby goes.
I think you need to slow down a bit – it’s only been a month, so stop thinking about the future and calling him the love of your life.
You simply can’t call him that when you’ve only been dating such a short time.
Be honest with your mum – tell her you like him a lot but that you don’t know where the relationship is going yet (for goodness sake, don’t mention marriage etc or you’ll scare her).
It’s not clear whether your boyfriend admitted he had a son or you found out through someone else – I hope it’s the former.
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