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Setting a little mood lighting before getting to the action is never a bad idea—especially if the sultry ambiance is courtesy of candles that melt down into massage oils. Not only are massage candles super romantic, but they’ll also allow you to incorporate some handsy foreplay into the mix.
If a partner is willing and open to sex, but not turned on atm, massage candles can help, says Megan Fleming, PhD, a clinical psychologist specializing in sex and relationships. “It’s through the massage, through the touch, that the body goes, ‘Oh, this feels good, this feels nice,’ and the arousal kicks in,” she says. “So then the desire builds.”
If this sounds a little like wax play, you wouldn’t be wrong. Like candles used in wax play, massage candles are a great option for people who are also interested in temperature play. The major difference is that, unlike the wax from the paraffin and soy candles used in wax play, which hardens on the body, massage candles melt down into body-safe oils that are meant to be absorbed by the skin.
If you want to try massage candles, rub the oil on your own hand first before dripping it on your partner’s back, suggests Fleming. The shock and intensity of the warm oil can up the steaminess of romp, but it might also get painful if the temps are too high for your partner. Once you find a temperature that works for you both, “explore and experiment and see what feels great,” by running your fingers along your partner’s body, says Fleming.
Ahead, a list of 12 massage candles that will take your night from routine to romance-novel level real quick.
burn no. 0
This massage candle looks like any other candle, but burns into a sweet-smelling oil. Thanks to skin-softening jojoba and soybean it’s made from, this candle will feel gentle on the skin while melting your stresses away.
Natural Edible Soy Candle
This candle both looks and smells good enough to eat. And because it is made with edible soy wax, you totally can. Lick the flavors off your partner’s body or just enjoy the feel of the blend of almond oil, Shea butter, and vitamin E on each other’s bodies.
Skin Smoothing Massage Candle
The roses used in Rose de Mai are native to the French city of Gasse—the perfume capital of the world. The roses are known for their sweet and singular fragrance, mixed with light notes of honey. If you want a candle that will make you say, “c’est parfait,” this could be the one for you.
Skin Treatment Candle
Everything about this candle is designed to melt away your stress as it turns to oil. A blend of french lavender, sweet basil, and jasmine helps you feel calm, aids in sleep, and gently lifts your mood according to the packaging. Better yet, you can relax knowing that it has been crafted from ethically sourced plants and uses absolutely no artificial ingredients.
Zodiac Soy Massage Candles
The stars aligned so you’d find this candle. Each of these Zodiac Sex Massage Candles depicts a sex position that fits your astrological sign’s unique sexy personality. Try it out after your sensual massage.
Lavender Massage Candle
This simple vegan candle provides a deceptive amount of relaxation in its minimalist container. Breathe in fragrant lavender as you and your partner explore each other’s bodies.
Intimate Massage Candle
Get intimate with these hand-poured, small-batch massage candles made from nourishing shea butter that smell like grapefruits and peonies.
This citrus-scented candle is made with all-natural, kissable ingredients including soy, soybean, lemon, and beeswax. It even comes with tips and tricks right on the box to make your next massages even more sensual.
Soy Wax Massage Oil Candle
Burn & Bliss
The easy pour spout on this candle makes using the massage candle even easier. Using all natural ingredients—soy, coconut oil, olive oil—this subtly scented candle won’t overpower the room so you can focus on the good stuff.
Massage Oil Candle
fleur de spa
This candle’s sweet pea and lavender fragrance is so relaxing it promises to send you off into sweet dreams with your special someone…after your massage, of course.
Natural Spa Therapy Scented Massage Candle
PINO developed products and therapy concepts used by spas throughout Europe. Now, you can experience its candles’ antioxidant aromas in your own home. Choose to inhale the scents of lemon hibiscus, lime bamboo, or Swiss stone pine while you knead you partner’s back.
Massage Soy Candle
If you’re still unsure how to tell your partner you want to experiment with massage candles, let this jar do the talking for you. Bonus: no dyes or fragrances are in the wax, just plant- based goodness.