Wand vibrators are one of the most superior sex toys out there — especially if you’re looking for the best type of vibrator for external stimulation. They’re available at varying price points and have powerful, rumbly settings for folks seeking pleasure from something different than a penetrative dildo or bullet vibrator.
Although wands are mainly used for clitoral stimulation, that’s not all they’re good for. Lisa Finn, sex educator and brand manager at Babeland, tells SheKnows she suggests using a powerful wand against a perineum for external prostate stimulation, along the shaft or against the head of a penis, against the rim of the booty or on other erogenous zones like nipples. The opportunities for external stimulation with these toys are basically limitless — just don’t try to vaginally or anally insert them.
So what are the perks of using a wand vibrator as opposed to other types of vibes? They tend to offer stronger, deeper vibrations, tackle a larger surface area, and have flexible necks so you can ease up or add on the pressure accordingly. If you want to masturbate without internal penetration, then wands are the ideal beginner’s vibrating toy for you.
If you you’re new to using sex toys, or wand vibrators in general, Carol Queen, PhD, Good Vibrations staff sexologist and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum, suggests choosing a wand with a range of speeds and modes so you can explore varying possibilities.
“Some users will never take their wand off ‘low,’ while others will crank it way up,” she tells SheKnows. “People really are different in terms of how they respond and what they like, so equip yourself with options! Some wand users like their stimulation to be direct on the clit; others use it more indirectly, or start indirect and move it to a more direct position as they get more highly aroused and closer to orgasm.”
Convinced and ready to buy your first-ever wand vibrator? Look no further. We’ve compiled a list of our personal favorites and best-sellers from some of the most popular brands in the biz, so you can find the one that perfectly meets your needs.
I’m willing to bet you’ll fall in love with your new wand, but no worries if you don’t. “I always like to remind folks that wand-style vibrators were originally marketed as “back massagers,” and so if it doesn’t work for you in bed, these are certainly helpful for working out other, well, kinks,” says Finn. Whether you use your wand to stimulate your clit or soothe your aching back, it’ll be sure to hit the spot.
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A version of this story was published in October 2019.