‘How many people have you slept with?’
It’s the sort of question which might get you doused in wine / possibly slapped on a first date – it is pretty personal after all – but many Brits do set a store by another person’s ‘magic number’.
Once you’re on more stable relationship ground, your sexual histories may very well be a topic you and your partner discuss.
But whether you’re a regular Casanova or relatively chaste, does it really matter – and is there a ‘desirable’ number?
It may be 2016, but the answer is ‘yes’.
If all your bedposts are whittled down to mere toothpicks, it may just count against you.
Not the ‘magic number’
The ‘unideal’ amount of previous sexual partners differs from country to country.
But as Superdrug’s Online Doctor revealed, when it comes to the UK, if you’re currently trying to woo a lady, any more than 15 previous sexual partners could be off-putting to her.
And if you’re courting a man? He may be deterred by any more than 14 previous sexual partners .
Interestingly, the small difference between the two shows a lack of gender double standards, and this is upheld in the number of previous sexual partners both felt was ideal .
Men and women were in close agreement about this, with the former saying 7.5 was good, and the latter saying 7.6 .
So maybe we’re not from Venus and Mars after all.
Although it may be a question which we find chuckle awkwardly at, or simply find uncomfortable, as Online Doctor states, it is seen as an important conversation to have.
Not necessarily to gage how ‘promiscuous’ a person is, but because it’s a good opportunity to discuss any STIs or issues you might have.
So, deep breath – and no fibbing.
Because as the NHS puts it, “You only have to have sex without a condom once to catch an STI that could affect you for life.”