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When men and women spend a lot of time around one another, flirting becomes a means of communication and entertainment that can make everyday interactions more fun and exciting. Just like other interpersonal activities, though, each person flirts and accepts flirtation differently. While some people flirt constantly, others reserve this affectionate type of interaction for expressing genuine feelings that extend beyond friendship.
Either way, it can sometimes seem impossible to differentiate between flirting vs. true attraction. If there are true feelings behind the flirting, it’s important to be able to recognise them in order to avoid any awkward or destructive situations. Sometimes a flicker of the eye or a brush on the arm can reveal volumes about the underlying relationship. Read on for tips on how to read her flirtatious activities and figure out if her interest extends beyond playfulness.
Level of attention
Flirtation that’s just flirtation will tend to be flippant and fun. Friends who don’t harbour a real attraction for one another will play, and then move on to the next thing. They have nothing invested because there are no feelings involved. If a gesture or a touch is prolonged, however, it could mean that she’s trying to get your attention to push things farther than the status quo. When flirtation is exaggerated like this, it could also mean she’s enjoying it so much that she doesn’t want to let you slip away, which is also an indication that there’s something else behind it. There is a fine defining line between these two levels of play, and people tend to differ on what they expect of flirtation, but you’ll likely notice if somebody gives you this extra bit of attention.
Some women are just flirty. If she’s scooting around giving everybody in the vicinity a wink and a nudge, there’s likely nothing special in the look she throws your way. In other words, if she uses casual flirting vs. true affection, there’s probably nothing more behind it. If, on the other hand, she pays special attention to you, there’s a good chance you’ve been singled out for a reason. If it’s not in her nature to flirt with just anybody, she may be trying to communicate how she really feels about you. Used this way, flirtation is a way to feel you out before putting herself on the line.
The key to friendly flirtation is lightheartedness and subtlety. Two people who flirt often will likely have a rhythm to their interactions; it’s like a routine. This type of play has underlying and unsaid boundaries that maintain a friendly feel. If her flirting suddenly becomes more intense, however, it could indicate deeper feelings.
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