Popping The Question To Her Dad
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It might seem a little old school, but before you pop the question to your girlfriend, it is a good idea to approach her father for permission. This involves more than a quick, “Oh by the way, can I marry your daughter” during half time. While the traditional reasons for asking are now obsolete, popping the question to her father is a sign of respect and should be thought out and prepared for. No matter how well you know her dad, you’ll be surprised at how nervous you’ll be.
To help you overcome any anxieties you might have, we’ve come up with four tips to help you pop the question to her father.
Assess the situation
Before popping the question to her father, make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page. Does she really want to marry you? Asking for permission only to have your proposal turned down is just an awkward day for everyone. Similarly, if your girlfriend is nowhere near ready for marriage, her dad might alert her and she could dump you before you can get down on one knee.
If she is on board, speak with her about approaching her father. Perhaps she has tips on how to make the conversation go smoothly. Or, depending on her relationship with her dad, she might not want to you ask him at all, but her stepfather, or mother instead.
Arrange a time to meet her father alone. Depending on your relationship with him, you may want to invite him out for a round of golf or maybe for a couple beers at a pub. If you are not as close, a face-to-face talk at his home is a good choice.
Don’t show up empty handed. If he likes wine or cigars, bring some. The point is to bring a little something to soften him up before you pop the question.
Before you meet your potential father-in-law, go over what you plan on saying. Flattery will get you far. Complimenting his daughter reflects favourably on how she was raised, which is a compliment for dad as well. When popping the question to her father, steer clear of praising his daughter’s physical attributes and stick to how smart, kind and loving she is.
Go over the questions you think he might ask and have your answers prepared. How will you support her? Where will you live? Will you convert to her religion?
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