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Yes, it’s that time once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to AskMen readers.
This week’s Q&A discusses how to successfully use a wingman and how to make conversation with women you’ve just met. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
I have a few questions. I go to a particular site and read some of their articles every so often. They talk about wingmen and how to use your buddies to your advantage when engaging in conversation with women. What is your opinion about this, and how do you use this method?
My second question is this: I have been talking to a woman for a few minutes and the conversation goes OK. I ask her name , she tells me, but she never asks my name even though our conversation continues. Is that a sign she is not interested? Any help you could provide to clear my confused head would be helpful.
david d. responds
To answer your first question, there are positives and negatives to using your mate for a “wingman.” I’ll break it down for you:
If you go out with a wingman, make sure he’s a lot better than you at meeting women. Pay attention, let him lead, and learn from the situations you get into.
If you don’t have any friends that are good with women, find some. I don’t care what you have to do, just go do it. Make some friends that are good with women, and watch closely at their communication skills. You’ll learn about 10 times as much if you first read my book and listen to my CD audio series, because you’ll know what to look for.
It’s also a good idea to use a wingman if you need the “moral support” of a friend to get yourself started meeting women. But make sure that your friend can handle himself when talking to women. If he can’t, he’s probably going to make things worse and scare women away from you. Trust me, I’ve been through this one many times.
What I’m trying to say is that using a “wingman” is great if it works for you. Try it.
To answer your question about a woman never asking your name, well, I’m going to answer this in two ways:
First, I’ll say that if a woman doesn’t ask your name, it might mean that she’s not interested. But the thing that concerns me about your question is that you’re really looking in the wrong direction for clues to decide if a woman “likes you.” It doesn’t matter if a woman “likes” you! The only thing that matters is whether or not she feels that powerful, magical, all-important emotion called attraction!
I’ve had women who were annoyed by me, bothered by me, and basically upset at me still feeling attraction for me because I did the right things. I’ve had women who started out fighting with me feeling so attracted to me that they wouldn’t leave me alone for the evening until I gave them my number.
Read on for more advice from David DiAngelo…