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The dating game can be an emotional drain if you’re after something truly meaningful. You know the scenario: You meet a hot girl in a bar, you seem to be getting along and the attraction is there, but then you decide to meet up later on only discover that she has all the personality of a fish, or even worse, she’s a loyal member of some cult. OK, so the outcome might not always be that extreme, but the point is, with no background info on your target the chances of compatibility with a girl you don’t know anything about are always going to be significantly reduced.
Bored with the single life and tired of meeting the wrong kind of girl in all the wrong places, I decided to try online dating on the recommendation of several friends — I took the plunge and signed up for AskMen.com dating, a service powered by Match.com that claims to help you find your ideal partner.
Scouting the talent
Before signing up, I decided to take a tour of the talent and was immediately impressed by the standard of potential dates on the site. As I searched away, there seemed to be profile after profile of girls with cute smiles and interesting back stories. So far so good. I soon found myself ‘Winking’ all over the place — sending an indication that I liked someone without actually writing anything. Within hours I’d received several ‘Winks’ back, some from those same girls, and some from complete randoms. With curiosity getting the better of me, I decided to sign up for the full service so that I could actually write to the objects of my interest.
The registration process is as long or short as you want it to be, with most of the details you publish optional. I went through the form describing my appearance, education, career, likes and dislikes, but passed on detailing my income, religion and political persuasion — you’ve got to retain some mystery after all. Then came the hard part – writing ‘About Me and Who I’m Looking For’ — an opportunity to fully state my dating case. Even as someone who’s happy talking about himself, it took about an hour for me to perfect my text — after all I knew I’d be judged on my every word. I initially tried and ultimately failed, to be funny before settling on an honest account of why I was joining the service: for companionship, and yes, maybe even the L word.
More of Ed’s experiences of playing the online dating game…