Your New Girlfriend Is Lying To You
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It’s an undeniable fact: Man or woman, we all dabble in the art of lying when it comes to new relationships. We do this because, when you like someone, you want to impress them so they stick around. It’s also a sad fact that women are guiltier of this than men. Are women more insecure? Are men more honest? Who knows? This isn’t a psychology lesson. The point is that men should be aware of the things new girlfriends lie about. We’re here to help you filter out all those little white lies and exaggerations women are prone to telling so that you don’t fall into the trap of basing all your growing feelings on the fake stuff. Here are some of the bigger things new girlfriends lie about to watch out for.
“I’ve been with…”
Let’s just put it out there: Women lie about their “number.” Not all women, but many. It has a lot to do with when and how the topic is broached and also, inevitably, by the number of partners you admit to having had. Think of this as the other side of our “7-11 rule” coin (which we established for you in our article Revealing Your Past). If you’ve only had two serious relationships your entire life, she might feel embarrassed by her larger number and subtract a few. Nailed a lot of girls? If she’s only had one partner and thinks you might deem her inexperienced, she could up the number. This really just boils down to her personal insecurities, making this a favourite among the things new girlfriends lie about.
How to deal: We all know you can’t force a woman to feel comfortable with herself. The only things you can do is either delay the inevitable conversation or approach it in a casual, respectful way so no one gets their feelings hurt or gets competitive. Good luck with that.
“I’m a die-hard (insert sports team here) fan”
Since having “common interests” helps to validate why we’re with a certain person, most people are guilty of feigning enthusiasm for topics that seem important to our new partner — like being a hardcore fan of a specific team. Whether it’s sports, favourite movies or hobbies, be wary of the girl that seems to be your “extracurricular twin.” This doesn’t mean that your girl doesn’t enjoy watching the occasional Champions League or FA Cup Final, but it does mean that claiming 3pm on Saturday afternoon as her reason for living might be a small fib.
How to deal: It’s not a deal-breaker if you find out your lady has been going a little overboard in the exaggeration department, but you should be aware of this tendency and not decide you’re in love because of how much you have in common in the first month. Take the time to explore the typical things new girlfriends lie about and what your new girl is truly passionate about.
Things new girlfriends lie about can range from the innocent to the deep, dark, sordid past…