Unemployment & Relationships
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The day a man loses his job is among the most stressful of his life. Sudden unemployment can turn a man’s world upside down, influencing every aspect of his life, including his relationship. Even the sturdiest of romantic bonds can be shaken when a man finds himself among the jobless. The stress caused by unemployment can eat away at a relationship like cancer. And though every guy hopes that his partner will actually help him weather the storm of unemployment, it’s also not uncommon for a guy to feel that having another person to worry about, and another stressed out individual in the house, just makes matters worse. Seeing how the economy is still in the tank, we suspect more than a few guys out there are wondering how to handle unemployment and relationships, so we’ve put together this list of strategies to help men get through this difficult chapter in their lives.
Losing your job can be a devastating experience. Anger, fear and nervousness are natural responses, and it’s OK to give in to those emotions — for a while. It’s fine to be upset, and she’ll probably be understanding, but a day or two of moping is pretty much all you’re allowed. You need to start planning your next move and looking for a new job, not wallowing around your apartment in your joggers.
Sitting around the house and moping about your unemployment won’t do either of you any good. So get your act together as quickly as possible. You can’t expect her to stand by while you spend the next four weeks bitching and moaning about your life being over. If, after a couple of weeks, you still feel like you need to talk to somebody about your luckless life, seek out a friend, at least periodically, so that your girlfriend doesn’t have to hear your moping all day, every day.
Leave with her in the morning
Just because you aren’t going in to the office anymore doesn’t mean you’re on vacation. It’s crucial that you stick to a schedule. Try waking up at the usual time and leaving with her in the morning. Simply getting out of the house will keep you motivated and increase your productivity. It will also help you retain some semblance of normalcy in your relationship.
Instead of searching the job listings from home, get out of the house and head for a nearby coffee shop. Arrange to meet contacts for lunch so you can let everyone know you’re on the market. Treat looking for a job like a full-time job; that’s the clearest path back to the workforce.
Read on for more advice on unemployment and relationships…