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Yes, it’s that time once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to AskMen.com readers.
This week’s Q&A praises the Cocky & Funny, getting over yourself and approaching younger women without being creepy. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
Cocky + Funny = Women, numbers, attraction, fun, sex, and more. It makes absolutely no difference what you do; it’s the Cocky & Funny way you do it! Be confident! Go up to some girls and say: “What’s up girls?” Ask for their names, and then look at the hottest one and say: “Are you trying to pick me up?” Then just keep teasing, making the frame that she wants you, and be sure to tell her you know she wants you. Trust me on this, when you see her face light up with a smile, it will be time, young grasshopper, to become a real ladies man!
Peace and may the Cocky & Funny be with you,
david d. responds
You know, you’d make a great walking billboard for my… well…
The problem is that you sound like a late-night infomercial and I don’t think anyone would believe you.
But seriously, you are right.
It would never cross the minds of most guys to look at a stunning woman and say: “Are you trying to pick me up?”
If I’m at a bar talking to a woman and she gives me any kind of compliment, hints that she likes me, tells me that I’m funny, etc., I’ll say: “Look, I know how you women are. First a little compliment, then you’re asking me for my number, then you want me to come home with you to ‘check out your new stereo’ or something. I just want you to know that I’m not that kind of guy and I won’t fall for it.”
Oh, I love it.
You are a wise man.
I feel the truth in your words.
I want to implement the techniques that you speak of — I do, I really do. But it seems that when I come in contact with women that I think are attractive, I can’t, or more precisely, I don’t. I think I’m afraid of rejection.
If I ask a woman for her number within three minutes, I just can’t see her giving it to me.
And if she did, I wouldn’t know when to call her (I’m thinking of the two-day rule from Swingers) or if I should call her at all and just keep retreating (a la The Tao of Steve).
Do you subscribe to the theories presented in these films and do you teach a class?
If yes, where do I sign up?
david d. responds
I understand where you’re coming from.
I would never have believed that a woman would give out her number to a complete stranger in two to three minutes — until I watched some guys actually do it.
As soon as I saw it happen, it completely changed my idea of what is possible. You just need to get out there and take action. Next time you’re talking to a woman, just say: “Hey, nice talking to you, but I have to get back to my friends (or what I was doing, etc.).”
Then, just as you’re turning away, say: “Hey, do you have e-mail?”
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