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Yes, it’s that time once again: The day we feature your dating and relationship questions. Although we would like to answer each one personally and with as much detail as possible, the overwhelming amount of inquiries forces us to highlight those that are most interesting to AskMen readers.
This week’s Q&A focuses on a guy who thinks and talks like a Wuss and won’t admit it. He’s also obsessed with a girl who’s not into him. Before he’s told how to get that one special girl, he’s told what he should really do. David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, has your answers.
Dave, I can safely say you’ve changed my life. I was once a 27-year-old virgin, (I know, extreme), I had never been on a date and I had had one girlfriend when I was 17. And get this; I’ve been told by loads of women that I’m hot. The reason for this was my complete lack of confidence; I just had none. I would get eyed up in a bar, and want to go over, but I just didn’t know what to say. If I was approached by a lady, I either froze up or shook so much that everyone in the room thought their mobile phone was vibrating.
I just got up one day, decided to go on the internet and learn.
Well, as you’ve probably guessed, your tips were the ticket.
I’m now 28 and have been using your techniques for about a year. I am so happy! I have girls coming out of my ears. I am now dating three women (very hot women) and I have four that won’t leave me alone.
OK, here’s the question:
The one girl that I want is the one playing hard to get. I’ve played it cool so far. I knew her from work, but I didn’t know her very well. She doesn’t work with me anymore, and I saw her in a club and “told” her to give me her number. When I ring her up, her phone is always off. So then I’ll send her a text message asking if she fancies going for a coffee during the week. She replies that she’s busy all week and she said that she has just gotten back with her ex and if I wanted to get to know her as a friend, it’s my decision.
I really like her, and she does not know this (because she doesn’t need to know). I am still a novice at the game so could you tell me exactly what you would do and exactly what you would say to get that one special girl?
david d. responds
Welcome to the world of being an adult man! Exciting.
And I’m glad to hear that you’re finally doing well with the ladies.
Now, you want me to give you a “special” answer to your “special situation.”
Let’s see: You are surrounded by gorgeous women and they’re chasing you around like you’re some kind of rock star, but you don’t want those women of course. No, you want the one who isn’t interested in you; you want the one who just got back with her boyfriend.
David D. tells our reader just how to get that one special girl…