Why She Hates You Going To Strip Clubs
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Getting together with some friends and spending the night at a strip club might seem like good, clean fun to you, but chances are your girlfriend has a decidedly more negative view of your chosen activity. Why does she get so angry when you stumble home smelling like booze and cheap perfume? It’s not like you had sex with another woman, right? It turns out she has a bit of a different perspective on the situation.
Here at AskMen, we believe that there’s nothing wrong with strip clubs as long as you’re going to them for the right reasons — namely, to have some fun with friends. If you’re heading to a strip joint with the intention to get off with a stripper, you’re giving men a bad name.
If you are indeed a decent guy who occasionally likes to hang out with his boys while innocently appreciating some exotic dancing, yet your girlfriend simply can’t get over it, she may be what we refer to at AskMen as a beautiful pain in the arse. We’ll help you figure out if her protests are justified or if you’d be better off without her.
Here’s why women hate strip clubs and the naked truth about her claim.
She’s worried you’ll cheat
Despite your insistence that you follow the strict no-touch policy most strip clubs have in place, she may still be concerned that you’ll stray. After all, it is a highly sexual environment fuelled by plenty of alcohol, which results in an atmosphere that makes indiscretions all the more tempting. She knows that you’ll be thinking with your other head while you’re there and she fears the lure of infidelity might win out over your loyalty to her.
The naked truth: The average, decent guy does not go to a strip club with these expectations, but we can understand how she may get this impression. Explain to her the function of strip clubs to men: they are recreational spaces for chilling out with friends, not somewhere a man goes with a sexual agenda. If she persists in her suspicion, she may be a beautiful pain in the arse.
She suspects you’re comparing
Strippers generally have the kind of bodies that men idolise. They wouldn’t have their jobs if they didn’t. Your girlfriend may be feeling insecure that she is being compared to these fantasy objects — and that’s a big reason why women hate strip clubs.
The naked truth: This has nothing to do with the strip club and everything to do with her lack of self-esteem. Everyone is insecure at times, but if this is constantly a big deal for her, she’s probably a beautiful pain in the arse, or at least has deeper issues that go far beyond the strip club and should be discussed.
She thinks it’s degrading to women
Many women hat strip clubs because they think that these venues are degrading to women and encourage chauvinistic attitudes. The idea of a group of drunk, horny men hooting at a girl taking her clothes off on stage for money is probably not exactly what the feminists of the sexual revolution had in mind.
The naked truth: She does have a bit of a point here. This reaction has more to do with her moral position than it does with an assessment of you or the relationship, so it’s tough to hold it against her.
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