My boyfriend and I have been together for around 18 months.
We have had a really tough past few weeks, constantly arguing and falling out.
We ended up agreeing that the best thing to do would be to call it a day, so we broke up.
A few days after we split up, I slept with someone else when I was drunk and so did he.
We told each other about what happened and immediately regretted it all and decided we wanted to make things right between us again.
That phrase “You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone” is very true in our case.
But it’s so difficult for me knowing that he’s bedded another girl and I imagine it’s hard for him, too, thinking of me with another guy.
Will we get through this?
I actually think it may be easier to get through it because you’ve both slept with other people. It might have been harder to move on if just one of you had been with someone else – but it’s an even playing field.
The important thing is to learn from it.
Now you both understand what you have to lose and that’s not a bad foundation to build on – with a clean slate.
What you have to do now is to make sure you don’t get into that situation again by focusing on what went wrong with your relationship in the first place.
See what steps you can take to solve those issues.
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