Buying Your Girlfriend A Present? Read This
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Shopping for girlfriends can be a minefield. Many of you may think you’re gifting alchemists when birthdays or Christmas falls, but finding the perfect present for your leading lady is harder than you think. Trust me.
I personally know of more instances than I can count on both hands (and feet, actually) where either I or friends have been bought presents that have resulted in:
a) False smiles and unspoken fury. This is usually reserved for relationships of under six months.
b) A quick march back to the place of purchase, boyfriend and receipt (hopefully) in tow. Or, worse:
c) The mother of all arguments. Highlights of which may include lines like: “You literally don’t know me at all,” “you’ve clearly bought that for yourself” or, simply “you tight bastard.”
So, let me give you some tangible examples. In two separate instances friends of mine have been bought sat navs by their boyfriends. In both cases the boys were incredibly smug about their presents pre-Christmas, seemingly safe in the knowledge of guaranteed brownie points due to the fact that their present was not only thoughtful (given that at some point over the past year their girlfriends had at least hinted that a sat nav would have been immensely useful — usually voiced in a stressful situation when the couple were lost and horribly late for a wedding/ christening/ aunt’s birthday). In both instances, both guys failed and both girlfriends wound up disappointed. Why, you ask?
In theory the guys should have aced it, right? First of all, they had been attentive and accepted a hint, taken it on board and acted accordingly, gifting something not just desired but also useful. Surely, this was a guaranteed win. Wrong. A sat nav is a perfect example of a gift giving no-no.
Allow me to rationalise this. When the girlfriends in question said they needed a sat nav at some point prior to Christmas, this was not code for “I want you to buy me one” and definitely not code for “Please blow the whole of my present budget on a piece of kit that necessity would ensure I will at some point buy anyway”.
The key point is that when it comes to shopping for women (and I hate to generalise here, but accept as a rough guide) stick to the premise of buying something that she would want something that she’d genuinely desire, rather than something she needs and will therefore traipse down the high street on one rainy saturday morning to joylessly purchase regardless.
Yes, absolutely listen out for hints — I assure you we will pepper nuggets of priceless guidance into conversation here and there. But If in doubt, the fundamental thing is to treat her with something, something that’s potentially too indulgent for her to justify buying herself. The safe zones are on Page 2…