I was with someone for seven months, then three weeks ago he physically assaulted me, which seemed totally out of character.
He’d never behaved like that before but my sister called the police and they took a statement from me, and he was put on police bail for two weeks.
During that time we got talking and met up one weekend, even though we shouldn’t have. But on the Monday morning he told the police we’d seen each other.
He told me he’d lost his job and that he needed money for rent, so I gave it to him, only to get a call from the police telling me he’d gone on holiday with the cash and that he’d only ever been with me to use me.
I feel totally devastated and heartbroken – he’d even asked me to marry him. What is going to help me feel better?
Yes, you have been used and abused by this absolute horror of a man.
It’s a lesson learned and now you have to focus on the positives – ie, you could have ended up marrying him or losing everything. You’ve had a lucky escape from an abusive fraudster.
The hurt and anger you’re feeling right now will fade and hopefully you will move on to better things.
Just be careful he doesn’t come crying to you, saying he’s changed. Don’t ever give him the opportunity to hurt you again.
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