My husband and I are meant to have an open marriage but I’ve discovered his so-called dates with other women have been spent alone at the cinema or in bars.
I’m afraid he’s pretending to go on dates just to appease me, as he knows I’m happy with our polyamorous lifestyle and I have a boyfriend.
I’m not sure how to confront him over this. I’m worried he’ll leave me or will want to go back to a monogamous lifestyle. Please help – I don’t know what to do.
I think you need to stop being so selfish – it’s obvious he’s not happy and you’re frightened of discussing it in case he tells you he doesn’t want the current arrangement any more.
And that means you have to face up to the fact that you’re not right for each other. Do you really want him to carry on if he’s this miserable? Where’s the love and joy of making him do something he doesn’t want?
If he admits he wants to go back to having a monogamous relationship and that’s not right for you, then the best thing you can do for both your sakes is to move on, so you both have a chance of happiness.
He’s going on these fake dates because he loves you and wants to be with you, but he’s clearly not as content with the arrangement as you are.
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