If I tell her that I don’t know when I’ll finish for the day, she will phone my boss and pester him. It’s draining and I find it embarrassing
My girlfriend and I have been together for about 10 years now. However, over the past year she has been constantly ringing me at work and turning up wherever I happen to be working.
If I tell her that I don’t know when I’ll finish for the day, she will phone my boss and pester him.
I’ve told her this has to stop – it’s draining and I find it embarrassing, too. I can’t even visit my family on my own any more without her calling me every half hour.
Am I being wrong or do I have every right to be annoyed?
I think you have every right to be annoyed. It sounds like your girlfriend is incredibly insecure, so ask yourself what’s happened in the past year to make her change and behave like this.
After 10 years in a relationship, you don’t suddenly become that paranoid for no reason.
If you’ve done anything to cause that insecurity – like lied to her or cheated – then she clearly needs more reassurance because she doesn’t trust you.
But if you genuinely don’t know what the problem is, then you need to find out.
Don’t pander to her insecurities. Explain very clearly that what she’s doing is going to push you away and make you resent her.
And it’s not only affecting how you feel, but it’s having an impact on your job, too.
It simply can’t carry on. Maybe you have to say to her that if she mistrusts you this much, then what is the point of the relationship?
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