The Best First Dates Based On Her Personality Type
First dates are difficult because you’re going into it with little to no information about your date. Besides a few simple questions you probably asked over Tinder and text to make sure they’re not a TOTAL psycho, most people prefer to leave the heavy questions for date number two (or three).
This means you’re essentially going into the situation blind – which can be scary, but also thrilling. We’ve compiled the 16 best first dates for each Myers-Briggs personality type to make things easier. The 16 Myers-Briggs personality types range from “the healer” (very emotional) to “the dynamo” (the person who craves adventure), and each different personality type comes with a different set of likes and desires.
Is it a foolproof method? Probably not. Will it help narrow down your date possibilities? Absolutely. With this list, the most important question you can ask your first date is “what four letters of the Myers-Briggs personality type fit you best?” Afterwards, the rest is in the hands of fate.
INFP aka “The Healer”
INFPs are extremely sensitive and concerned with self-growth. They’re very in touch with their emotions and want to constantly re-examine their own life. The perfect first date for an INFP would be to take them to an independent movie, then coffee afterwards so you can discuss how the film affected you both. You’ll really impress your INFP date by showing your super sensitive side: talking about how the movie moved you to be a better person.
INFJ aka “The Counsellor”
INFJs are nurturing towards others and want the people in their lives to be the best versions of themselves. The best date for an INFJ would be to grab a cocktail and talk about your childhood, or take them on a scenic hike that provides ample opportunity for you to divulge your past.
ENFJ aka “The Teacher”
ENFJs are inquisitive of the world and want to learn as much about others as they possibly can. A great date idea is to take them to a workshop or crafting class, something that will be new to both of you. Nothing will make you gel more with an ENFJ than attempting to learn something new.
ENFP aka “The Champion”
ENFPs are competitive and like to win, however not at the cost of anyone else’s’ feelings. The best bet is to take them to an arcade for cheap beers and a healthy game of darts. Or, if you’re feeling extremely lucky, take them out to bowl or play pool. Anything that is hands-on will make the ENFP woman in your life feel in her element.
INTJ aka “The Mastermind”
INTJs are overly analytical and enjoy complex problem solving. Invite them over for some delicious wine and some complex board games. Or, if you feel so inclined, allow them to choose the date. The thrill of being in charge will make any INTJ happy.
ESFP aka “The Performer”
ESFPs love to be the centre of attention and take great pride in their craft. The perfect date for this performer would be to take them to a local karaoke bar, or anything where they can show off their artistic chops, like a painting class or a book store.
ENTJ aka “The Commander”
Strategic leaders in all aspects of their lives, ENTJs can be difficult to please unless they’re in control. A headstrong man will still try and plan a date for an ENTJ woman, but a smart man will let her decide where the night will lead you.
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ENTP aka “The Visionary”
The most fun an ENTP can have is discussing complex ideas with other intelligent people. Group dates work well for ENTPs where they’re able to bounce their ideas off other people. Another potential great first date for this visionary is working on a puzzle together or discussing your future plans in life over a cup of coffee.
INTP aka “The Architect”
INTPs have difficulty living “in the moment” since their minds are often occupied with abstract thoughts. The best date to take an INTP on is an interactive museum exhibit. Nothing will get them more present and in the moment than taking in brilliant art work and conversation.
ESFJ aka “The Provider”
ENFJs at their core are helpers who want to feel needed and want to feel as though they’re guiding you. The best date you can take an ENFJ on is one where you’ll look clueless and they’ll be able to guide you through it. Whether you’re watching a new docu-series that they’re well-versed on, or if they’re an expert at archery, allow them to take the lead and show you how things are done.
ISFJ aka “The Protector”
Known to be conventional – they like to play it safe – the best bet for a first date with an ISFJ is the traditional dinner and a movie. Bonus points if you take her somewhere where she’ll want to feel protected (like roller blading if she’s a beginner).
ISFP aka “The Composer”
ISFPs are very artistic and musically inclined. The best bet for a first date would be to take them to see live music over a few cocktails. Or, invite them over and spin them some of your favourite records.
ESTJ aka “The Supervisor”
Extremely organised and to the point, ESTJs like to know what they’re getting into long before they show up. You are probably safe with any first date with an ESTJ as long as there are no surprises and you don’t flake out on them.
ESTP aka “The Dynamo”
The traditional dates will not fly with an ESTP – they like excitement, adventure, and the chance to show off how boisterous they are. The best dates you can take an ESTP on are hands-on. Whether it be laser tag or mini golf or something else, as long as they have the opportunity to show off, they’ll be in heaven.
ISTJ aka “The Inspector”
Traditional and organised, ISTJs like things to be in order and like to feel productive. The best date you can take an ISTJ on is something completely out of their comfort zone. Plan a “surprise” date (and make sure your ISTJ is properly clothed for whatever activity you have planned). You’ll look organised and responsible, and she’ll get a break from constantly having to plan and organise things in her life.
ISTP aka “The Craftsperson”
Hands on hands on hands on. Take your ISTP woman to a pottery-making class, or a painting class, or even a knitting class. Getting her involved with a craft will show that you care about her love of all things artistic. It will also show her that you’re not afraid of trying new things, especially if you’re not particularly crafty yourself.
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