Cougars Reveal 6 Secrets To Dating Them
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Hugh Jackman and Deborra-Lee Furness. Madonna and… everyone. As Chris Rock once said, the older a woman gets, the less she wants: “I like older women cuz young girls are full of shit,” he crudely jokes.
Older women have long been fantasy material for men – and not just for their unabridged sexual knowledge. Peter Lloyd, author of Stand By Your Manhood, says young men find older women “liberating”, and a survey by dating website EliteSingles found that men aged between 20 and 29 are much more likely to date a woman who is significantly older than them because they are more “intriguing and attractive.”
An article from The Daily Mail suggests that men go for older women because “Young women often view men as success objects (i.e. defined and rated by how much they earn and own) – and there’s less chance of that with a more mature woman who, chances are, has already attained her own success.” If there was ever a way to level the playing field, an older woman just might be it.
According to the UK’s “cougar queen” – businesswoman Juney Smith who has dated more than 250 toyboys since she turned 30 –“Most of the men I date admire my sense of fun, style and the fact I am not after marriage and kids.
“When you’re a cougar you need to date younger guys who know the rules from the start,” she explains.
“The main one is the relationship won’t be long term but we will enjoy each other’s company and a lot of the time doesn’t involve sex.”
Sometimes being with a woman who knows exactly what she wants and has had enough relationship experience not to lose their shit over a forgotten ‘x’ at the end of a text actually trumps that exalted fountain of youth.
The good news for cougar-seeking men today? Single older women are more plentiful than ever. Recent data from the Office for National Statistics shows that the majority of women in Britain are not married, and the age at which British women tie the knot for the first time has been steadily climbing. The number of women getting hitched for the first time in their late 30s and 40s has almost doubled in the past decade.
So now that the allure of the older woman is no longer under debate, we went to Reddit for the best advice from cougars on how younger men can successfully get their attention. Just don’t say we didn’t warn you that dating older women doesn’t come with its own set of struggles. And hey, not all women over 50 look like Stifler’s mum, either.
Show Don’t Tell
Be Open To Change
Know The Age Gap Max
Never Mention The Word ‘Cougar’