Eight Telltale Signs That She’s Definitely ‘The One’
It’s a common predicament: you’ve been in a relationship a little while and things are going well, but you’re not 100% sure whether the two of you are destined to be together forever. Given that there are billions of other women in the world, how do you know that this is the one you want to lock things down with for good?
It’s really difficult to know for certain whether your relationship will last the distance, so we’ve helped you by compiling eight of the best signs that she’s the one. Read on to see if your relationship has what it takes:
1. You Introduce Her To Everyone
There comes a certain point in a relationship where you need to decide whether you’ll introduce your girlfriend to your friends and family. A certain level of intermingling of your worlds is inevitable even in fairly casual relationships — it’s not a huge deal for a partner you’re not certain about to have met some of your friends, for example — but meeting family, and in particular your parents, is usually a sign you’re looking to take things to the next level. Your nearest and dearest know you best and sometimes have an even clearer picture of who is best for you than you do. Even if you’re lying to yourself about your relationship’s prospects, your closest friends and family usually won’t, which is why the big introduction can be a significant step towards determining whether your girlfriend is the one.
2. You’re Planning A Future With Her
One obvious sign that you’re onto a winner is if you find yourself constantly daydreaming about a future together with your girlfriend. If the idea of getting married, having kids, buying a house or embarking on a long-term project together fills you with joy rather than dread, you should take that as a sign that your relationship has the potential to last the ages. If you’re not sure whether your girlfriend is the one, imagine taking on a serious commitment that will bind you together for at least the next five to 10 years. How does that make you feel? Listen to your gut: your body will let you know whether things are right or wrong.
3. You Still Find Her Attractive
It’s easy to find your partner attractive when you first start dating. Hormones are flying, the relationship is full of novelty, and you’re yet to discover your partner’s most grating bathroom habits. But this rush of initial attraction will inevitably fade if you don’t have enough basic compatibility to keep each other interested — intellectually, emotionally and sexually. Once you’ve established a baseline physical attraction, personality is what keeps you wanting to remain physically intimate, so if you’ve found someone who keeps you engaged on every level, that’s a sure sign you’re on to a keeper.
4. She Makes You Laugh
If you’re going to be with your partner for a long duration, you’re going to need to be able to endure life’s hardships together. Life is not always smooth sailing, and neither are relationships, so being able to weather the down times with a sense of humor is a must. Of course, it’s not all doom and gloom, and a sense of humor also makes life’s high points even more blissful. Either way, being able to laugh together is crucially important, so if you’ve found someone who can make you see the lighter side of life, hold on to her.
5. You Still Love Talking To Each Other
Life gets pretty boring if you can’t occasionally chew the fat until dawn with someone you really care about, and who better to do that with than your live-in, long-term partner? If you and your current girlfriend can’t sustain a conversation about topics deeper than today’s weather for longer than 20 minutes at a time, you probably haven’t found your soulmate. Conversely, if the hours fly by unnoticed while you’re shooting the breeze on the subjects dearest to your heart, you should definitely be locking it down with this one.
6. You’d Rather Hang Out With Her Than Anyone Else
Your partner should be one of your favorite people to hang out with, point blank. Even if the relationship is past the point where you are giddy at the idea of seeing each other, you should still actively look forward to being around your partner — if she’s the one, that is. If it feels like a chore to be around her or you’re constantly bickering about minor, insignificant matters, that may be a sign you’re better off spending your time with somebody else. If you still get butterflies at the thought of seeing your significant other even after you’ve been together a while, you have found something really special.
7. You Have Compatible Values
While there’s no need to be 100% aligned on every issue, you and your girlfriend should be in basic agreement about your core values. If you have fundamental disagreements about politics, religion or your principles, it may cause rifts in your relationship that will be difficult to overcome through the usual methods that can fix more minor relationship grievances; communication and compromise. No one can expect you to completely overhaul your moral code to better fit into their lives, and you shouldn’t be asking that of anyone, either, so make sure that you’re on the same page to begin with. If you and your girlfriend tend to stand for the same things, that’s a good sign your relationship will last the distance.
8. You Want The Same Things In Life
Even if all other factors in your relationship are pointing towards long-term compatibility, you need to want roughly the same things out of life for the relationship to last. Is she certain she doesn’t want children, while you want nothing more than to raise an entire soccer team? Does she have her heart set on big city life, while you see yourself settling down on a farm? If you have major differences in terms of your set-in-stone plans, you’re going to have to call the relationship a day at some point or else make some pretty significant compromises. If you don’t mind changing your mind on the big issues, or if you’ve found someone who has more or less the same life plan as you do, that’s another solid sign that you’ve landed the one.
By now, you should be feeling a little bit clearer in your mind now about whether your girlfriend is the person you’re going to be with for good, even if there was some confusion before. At the end of the day, you have to go with your own gut feeling, but if all or most of the above eight signs are present, our money’s on her being the one.