It’s naughty, it’s hot AF, and, according to most of these people who’ve done it, it’s totally worth it: Sex with a coworker. It feels wrong but **oh so right** at the same time.
Apparently, awkward glances during meetings and compromising your job are outweighed by finally getting it on in your coworker’s car (or office) after work, especially since the risky rendezvous can lead to a long-term relationship or marriage. No, really—research shows that’s the case for 31 percent of coworker hookups—and some of the women here* can attest.
Of course, for others, the happy ending (heh) may not have been wedding bells…but making the 9-to-5 life a little more bearable is a pretty big win, too.
Whatever your ultimate goal, if you’re contemplating hooking up with the person in the next cubicle over, let these tales of coworker sex be the push you need to go after what you want (you know, as long as it won’t be an HR issue). Just be warned: Cheating is definitely a common thread here.
And if dipping your pen in company ink isn’t your thing and you’d rather stick to just fantasizing about your manager (good girl, you), here are some steamy coworker-sex stories to hold you over the next time you’re procrastinating.
*Some names have been changed.
“I basically told him point-blank that I thought we should hook up.”
“Three months into my post-grad life, I got dumped. I’m talking blindsided, never-saw-it-coming-level dumped. Of course, before I was dumped, I did have an eensy-weensy bit of a crush on a guy I worked with. At the time, I was an intern at a fairly big company (paid, full-time, but an intern nonetheless), and he was five years older with an actual career, albeit in a different department.
So, about two weeks after my breakup, we went out for post-work drinks in a group, and toward the end when it was just the two of us, I basically told him point-blank that I thought we should hook up. He was taken aback at first, but then he gave me his phone number. A few days later, he texted me to meet up, but I was busy that night.
Long story short, the next weekend, we drunkenly hooked up at my place after going out with our respective friends, and it was pretty great. He was a high-quality bedmate that helped me get my first rebound out of my system. Afterward, we got close to hooking up maybe one or two times, but then we both started dating other people. There wasn’t really any post-sex awkwardness at work, probably because we never talked about it again, so it was pretty easy to go back to being work friends. Thank g.” —Lindsey G.
“I just smirk every time I enter that same bathroom stall at work.”
“I worked at the same job for more than five years, and things seemed pretty mundane. Then one day, there was a new hire who bumped into me at the office Christmas party. We ended up chatting for two hours and then scheduled drinks for that next week. During our first happy hour, we talked about work, previous relationships, and sexual orientation. By the time we left, we were pretty drunk but also sober enough to remember that she was bisexual and that I was curious.
Several happy hours later, where we did nothing but flirt, we went back to my house. For three months after that night, we’d hang out with coworkers, leave outings separately, and then go back to my house or even sneak in the women’s restroom at work. It was the most fun and interesting experience ever! Almost a year later, the new hire left the job to pursue a graduate degree. I just smirk every time I enter that same bathroom stall at work.” —Nicole A.
“Everyone was cool with it because we kept things professional.”
“When I first started hooking up with a fellow editor, I knew we’d have to keep it under wraps, since the staff was small and tight-knit. But by the time he rose up the ranks and became my boss, the secret was out.
Interestingly enough, everyone was cool with it, because we kept things professional. But it did put a strain on our relationship. We went out of our way so that people didn’t think I was getting any special treatment, but it definitely started a few fights when my features never made it to the front page. Working with a significant other is hard, but I also can’t say I don’t recommend it—he and I got married last year. —Brooke L.
“I get to look forward to shared snacks, sweet messages, and coy smiles at work.”
“I’d thought this guy who worked in my office was cute for a long time, but I was never sure how to make a move since we didn’t really work together. We’re on different teams, but our desks are very, very close.
One day at a random happy-hour event at the office, we ended up standing near each other, and I took the opportunity to throw him some flirty energy. I didn’t even know if he was single, but the vibes were well-received. We ended up going out to a bar that evening in a group, and as the night went on, people slowly peeled off until it was just the two of us. We got fried chicken and rode the train home together. Before I got off, I said, ‘Well…I’ll see you tomorrow at work.’ ‘Hope so,’ he replied with a grin.
We ran into each in the elevator the next two days, which had never happened before. We started messaging on Slack, then planning dates. After our second date, we made out outside my apartment for 40 minutes because I wouldn’t invite him up just yet. That policy was broken shortly after. We’ve kept it on the DL at the office, which has made the whole thing even more mysterious and fun. It’s a little nerve-wracking not knowing how it will pan out, but right now, we have crazy-good sexual chemistry and conversation, and I get to look forward to shared snacks, sweet messages, and coy smiles at work. Not bad.” —Carly K.
“Over five years later, we are happily married!”
“I was looking for a job in another city because my boyfriend at the time was moving for graduate school. One of my college friends introduced me to someone who interned at a company I was interested in, and I ended up taking a job there.
My boyfriend and I broke up a few months after I moved to the new city with him. After the breakup, one of my new coworkers—who started on the same day as me—was really supportive and included me in all of his plans, to make sure I never felt alone.
A few months after the breakup, he and I went to a dive bar, and after a few too many drinks, we ended up kissing. The next day at work, I avoided talking to him because I wasn’t ready for a relationship, and I knew he was. It took about three months after the first kiss for us to kiss again. But over five years later, we are happily married!” —Alexa M.
“Now I’m perpetually turned on by the idea of hooking up with a coworker.”
“In high school, I was a hostess at a fine-dining restaurant, which was a huge upgrade from the ice cream shop where I worked the year before. The restaurant had an open kitchen, which meant the front-of-house staff got to interact a lot with the line. Of course, I pretty much instantly fell for one of the chefs—he was 10 years older than me, but he was hot, super tall, and always made me laugh.
I spent the next few months strutting around the restaurant in my cutest outfits, flirting with him—and other employees, to make him jealous, of course—and finding any possible excuse to walk into the prep kitchen when I knew he’d be there. We got closer and closer, chatting at work and texting at home, until one day, he finally invited me over to his place. We didn’t have sex then, but we did basically everything else.
It was an exhilarating experience. A few people at the restaurant figured it out, but for the most part, we got to sneak around, sexting each other dirty things and setting up little “run-ins” where we could make out for a minute. It wasn’t a big deal that he and I worked together, per se—restaurants are incestuous, ICYDK—but our age difference definitely made people squirm. He could have gotten fired—or worse—for that. I kinda loved it.
Fast-forward a few months, and things basically fell apart. I was in love with him but was about to leave for college, and he was…well, severely damaged by a previous relationship. We had no future, but at 18, I refused to believe that. It wasn’t until I came home for Thanksgiving break and he completely ghosted me—despite having made plans to see each other—that I realized how badly he wanted to push me away.
Now, I’m perpetually turned on by the idea of hooking up with a coworker. Too bad there aren’t many single men hanging around my office…” —Marissa G.
“I would have probably let things escalate, but I was worried about cameras.”
“I had just graduated from college and was jobless, so I split my time between an internship and working for my dad, a vet. He basically paid me to organize his office and file papers—it was brainless work. But I loved being there, because one of my dad’s techs—we’ll call him Brian—was the hottest thing I’d ever seen. We flirted constantly, often teasing each other, but with my dad always around, I knew nothing would ever happen.
That is, until one very special day, when my dad left early for a dentist appointment. I was in the middle of sorting through a stack of receipts in an empty exam room when Brian came in. ‘Meet me behind the building in five,’ he said. I swear my heart stopped for a second. I went outside exactly five minutes later and saw him standing by the bushes. He reached out and pulled me by the hand to where we couldn’t be seen from the parking lot. We started kissing, and then he reached into my jeans and started fingering me. I would have probably let things escalate, but I was worried about cameras.
Somehow my dad’s other tech found out, and she casually mentioned to my dad that Brian and I were dating. We weren’t. My dad isn’t a protective guy, but a couple of weeks later, he fired Brian. Apparently, he ‘couldn’t be trusted.’ Not having Brian’s number or the balls to ask my dad for it, I let the whole thing go. I convinced myself that he hated me for getting him fired, and that if he really wanted to see me again, he would have figured out a way. I felt awful…but also a little rejected.
Years later, I jokingly brought up Brian’s name at a family dinner. It was then that I found out that Brian had been stealing drugs—pain killers—from the cabinet where my dad stashed veterinary meds. Turns out, my dad never cared that Brian and I hooked up…but safe to say, I dodged a bullet.” —Shelby C.
“I wasn’t even that physically attracted to this guy on my team, but something about him being kind of older, me being fresh out of college, and him giving me attention made me want him so badly. He’d always make conversation when we walked by each other, ask what I thought during meetings, and compliment me.
I was okay just fantasizing about him—I thought my crush would pass—but after a work event when there were only few people left, we started flirting HARD. That’s when I knew he was into me too. He asked if I wanted to get some food (mind you, we’d just eaten so much at this event), and I said I did. After sharing some fries at a diner, he offered to escort me home. When I invited him in, we had sex. It. Was. Terrible.
I honestly was so nervous about seeing him in the office on Monday, I almost called in sick. I ignored his texts all weekend. I just couldn’t handle facing him because I could tell he was into me, but I didn’t want to ever interact with him again. The sex was that bad. Anyway, I obviously had to go back to work, and after avoiding eye contact for three days, he got the hint. I felt awful, but I didn’t know what else to do.” —Jeannie B.
“He went out of his way to be nice around the office…”
“My boss and I had been flirting for quite a while, when one night, he asked me to come into his office. He started kissing me, but then someone knocked at the door, so we stopped and I left. He asked me out shortly after, and we went on a few dates and talked every day for some time. He called me back into his office one day, and before I knew it, I was leaning over a desk. It was exciting…working at a hotel and getting to sleep with someone ‘off-limits.'”
Of course, I soon found out that he was dating someone else. I broke it off, and much to my surprise, he was very kind to me afterward. He knew what he did was wrong—not so much for hooking up with his subordinate, but for being in a relationship the entire time. He went out of his way to be nice around the office, and we left things at that. I eventually left the job, too, but not because of him.” —Lily S.
Turns out, lots of celebs stay with their cheating partners. Including these:
“We both just needed each other at that time in our lives.”
“We both had started around the same time, and we were so nervous around each other, you could tell we were crushing. He worked in IT, so one of my work friends would have ‘computer issues’ all the time and request him so I could see him. We ended up exchanging numbers so if I had ‘computer issues,’ I could let him know.
We texted a lot during work and then started calling each other on our way home. We would text all day and night like a normal couple. I’m pretty sure he texted me first about hooking up and how much he liked me. We built a relationship with each other and started falling in love. We ended up meeting up outside of work one day—he was a firefighter on the side, so I’d stop by the firehouse. We kissed and then hooked up in a parking lot…not our finest moment, but hey, it worked.
Turns out, he was in a relationship. His girlfriend got pregnant and they got married. In full disclosure, we still continued to hook up on the side until I got a boyfriend. Again, not my finest moment. But the feelings we had were still there. Once I started dating someone, though, I wanted to be faithful to my boyfriend. He’s now my husband.
I still see this guy, like, every day at work, but we don’t talk as much outside of work. We’re both happy with where our lives ended up, and we’re happy for each other. We both just needed each other at that time in our lives. He now has another kid on the way. On we go!” —Tasha H.
“It was kind of awesome to see her in this element instead of in work mode.”
“I spent the night with my coworker after working with her for about four years. I ran into her at a bar, and since we have always gotten along at the office, I went up to her and introduced her to my friends. When her friends left, she ended sitting at our table, and we went back to my friend’s apartment later that night.
We were all dancing and eating takeout. It was kind of awesome to see her in this element instead of in work mode. I couldn’t keep my eyes off her. She eventually caught me staring, and we snuck off into my friend’s roommate’s bedroom and started hooking up. Even though I’d never thought of her like that, it was one of the hottest nights/mornings I’ve ever had. But because I think we both really care about our jobs, we left it at that. We’re really cool with each other at work and it’s never felt awkward, but unfortunately, I don’t think we’ll ever do it again.” —Maia
“I had him do everything he said he did to his ex to me.”
“I’ve hooked up with a few coworkers. I don’t know if they all know that, but it’s usually pretty fun. The best night was when I first started my job and there was this guy who started a few months before me, so he’d been helping me out a lot. He mentioned he had a girlfriend, but that didn’t stop my crush, even though I was always respectful and didn’t flirt. One night over drinks, he got kind of drunk and he told me all the stuff he does in bed with his girlfriend, and it was insane. Like nothing I’ve ever heard before. I instantly wanted him more.
Eventually, he and the girl broke up, and I knew it was my chance. I asked if he wanted to hang out after work. We flirted the whole night, casually touching each other and basically saying we were into each other. He came home with me and I had him do everything he said he did to his ex to me. I have no regrets. Not one. We dated for about two months, but he got a new job in a different state and I hate long distance, so.” —Rashida M.